Please tell me to stop being silly re names

[SaysSheWithThe80sPerm]

I'm 33 weeks pregnant with what will be my last child. We don't know what we're having so have chosen a boys and a girls name, including middle name.

I love both names we have chosen, and I've become so attached I can't get the thought out of my head that one of these names will not be used and I will never have a child named XYZ. I feel like I'm mourning a child that was never going to exist anyway! I genuinely feel sad. Does that sound mad? Can anyone relate?

Please tell me to stop being ridiculous. I'm hoping once baby is here all thoughts of the unused name will vanish

That’s what pets are for 🤣 I suspect it’s more that you’re sad you won’t be having anymore children , rather than the name itself iykwim.

But if it really bugs you and you don’t want to give it to a pet, then you’ll have to use the other name as an extra middle name (and hope it’s a girl as a boy probably won’t thank you for it! 😁).

Is now a good time to admit that one of my (secret) reasons for getting a dog was to use my other favourite baby name choice 🤣

I completely get this. I just wrote a whole spiel but being 4am if didn't make much sense. I just had a baby a few weeks ago (also my last) and honestly I was exactly the ssme: baby girl is here now and I don't mourn the other name. I'd we get a dog we'll call him the name!

I feel this. Currently pestering my DH for baby 3 so I can use the name I didn’t give to DCs 1&2! Haha. It doesn’t sound quite the same on a cat….

I get this so much! It is ridiculous, but im
ridiculous too!!!

Love the response "That's what pets are for" 😁
Maybe I could give a cat a first name plus two middle names. It would be the grandest cat in the village!

I am glad I'm not alone in this though. Part of me wishes we found out the sex then I wouldn't have formed an attachment to two 'babies' when there was only ever going to be one.

Perhaps part of me is sad that this is my last

@pambeesleyhalpert It's reassuring you don't think of the unused name now your baby is here. I'm hoping for the same

I was told a dd at a scan 20 years ago. She had a name and a wardrobe of clothes. Back when girls wore pink and dresses!! An absolutely smashing ds arrived and I was in no way disappointed but I did in a way mourn that dd!! She was very real in my head...
Had 22 dd's later on and would gladly swap them for 2 ds's!!
Hormones!! Aahhh!

I had two girls and didn't find out the sex either time and I get it, I felt a bit that way the second time - but the certainty that I didn't want any more babies was much stronger than any wistfulness over the little baby X who never was.

I liked the boys names we had picked but I loved the girls names and so I probably would've felt it more strongly if we'd had boys - even though I would've been delighted with boys. No preference in terms of boy Vs girl but very much preferred Jane to John (say) if that makes any sense at all!

Had 22 dd's later on and would gladly swap them for 2 ds's!!
Hormones!! Aahhh!
23 children in 20 years!

Came on to say also impressed 😂

I suspect when your baby arrives you'll barely care about the "other" names

I felt the same OP, I was worried I'd be sad I'd never get Boy Name but we have our girl and I think of the other name fondly but not enough to have another child !!!!

I have a whole list of names I still feel sad I wasn't able to bestow on a child. I don't think you are being silly OP, this is obviously A Thing.

I also plan to bequeath my favourites to future pets!