DH likes a name my ex has used

[augustbaby24]

DH keeps saying he really likes Adam for a boy. I agree, it's a lovely name. But I know through family that my ex boyfriend called his little boy Adam.

We are broken up a over decade, but we were together 6 years and lived together. Not a bad break up, just a teen romance that didn't make it. I don't have him on SM or ever see him, well I have seen him a handful of times our home towns are very close, always polite. We would know people in common.

I just said to DH I'm not too sure on it. He's mentioned it a few times. Would you just keep saying it's not for me, or tell him why? I don't want him to think I keep tabs on my ex, my sister told me - in passing.

Just say you’re not feeling it.

Does it matter what your ex called his child? If you otherwise like the name go for it.

I think i’d tell him why if I were you, I don’t think there’s anything weird about you knowing that or about it giving you reservations!

If you don’t like it then say that, if you do like it then use it. You’re overthinking it.

It’s a nice name. They’re hardly likely to meet. It’s really not a big deal. There are lots of kids called Adam - it’s hardly a rare name.

If you’re considering using it I think you need to tell him that your ex used it, in case he finds out later. I personally would consider using it anyway if you both like it.

I don't have a real draw to it, but I do think it's nice. It's not like a name I have always wanted to use.

I think it would put me off a bit

I would say that it doesn't matter that it is the name of the son of your ex boyfriend.
But if the fact is dissuading/irksome to you, then you should be honest with your husband and tell him the reason that you don't want a son of yours to have that name.

I'd tell him