Edith Tabitha or Edith Calliope and what to do with my last name?

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48 hours to decide due to a sneaky preregistration form forcing our hand. My husband chose her first name (which I really like) and is happy with either middle names. We’ve narrowed down a long list but he has an extensive living family that all keep in touch (think multiple visits per year upwards of 70 people) so if it’s a popular name in the UK then likely she already has a second cousin who she will meet in May.

Which of the two options do you prefer?

Edith Tabitha - Tabitha is a bible story I always liked (she’s a female disciple who gives to the poor) & the name I liked as a child. I am Christian.

Edith Calliope - all my mum’s family are named after character’s from the Odyssey. Also extended family have kept a classical theme. Calliope is goddess of eloquence and her myths have positive experiences for her (not her kids though.)

Finally, I didn’t take my husband’s name at marriage as it’s my name, my identity (I go by my initials as shortening), and I didn’t want to change it. However, I have no desire to pass it to the next generation so she will have my husband’s last name.

Would sticking my last name as a middle name (legally there but never used verbally) make any legal or travel processes easier? From what I’ve read, I think it doesn’t? If so, I won’t bother.

thanks for the help!

Oh how lovely. You really can't go wrong with those beautiful choices. X

and we’ve gone for Edith Tabitha

Deciding point was talking to my mum about the classical link and her really not being fussed/ bringing up all the exceptions in the family.

Also my husband’s last name is one you have to spell and it was pointed out she would be spelling both Calliope and the last name for every form.

thank you all for your help!

Absolutely lovely, congrats.

Ah, that’s great you have a lovely name
for her!

I'd use all the names including your surname, in whichever order works best. Why do you have to choose only one?

The middle names will hardly ever be spoken out loud, only once in a blue moon. But by including them in your daughter's legal name you're satisfying your need to use the names you like.

Beautiful! ❤️