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Moier · 2024-01-28T23:38:44+00:00

Asking strangers which baby names they like etc... Or have chosen first name and asking for advice for a middle name etc... Or which name do you prefer out of these etc... Then the answers are.. No don't like that etc... Oh what an awful name etc... They don't go together etc... The Mums to be surely must be disheartened at some of the comments.. ???

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Daisybuttercup12345 · 29/01/2024 15:47

WeeOrcadian · 28/01/2024 23:58

If you don't want opinions, don't ask for them

Some names I've seen on here have been beyond hideous

This.
Expectant parents need to remember they are not naming a cute pet, but a person who will become a man or woman in society . Why set them up with a ridiculous name.

JaninaDuszejko · 29/01/2024 16:13

You can always search for opinions on names without actually starting a thread and then feeling any negativity is aimed at you personally.

I do have DC with MN approved names though, in fact if I look through threads about 'cool boys names' DS's name always features. Slightly worried it's going to become popular!

BoleynMemories13 · 29/01/2024 18:11

If someone doesn't want honesty they shouldn't seek opinions. This board would be totally pointless if we all just said 'gorgeous name hun' (I hate the term hun by the way, just pointing out that this is definitely not a 'hugs huni' board.

For me it depends how the post is worded:-

Which middle name? - I don't comment on the first name choice, it's clearly chosen and an opinion on it isn't being sought.

Which one do you prefer? OP requires honesty to make an informed decision. If I like all bar one or two, I will mention my dislike as they may find it useful, especially if many posters feel the same about the same name(s). I'll balance it out will positive comments on the name(s) I love. If I dislike them all, I will just tell them which one I dislike the least, being careful how I word it. I'm not going to pretend I love a name if I don't but I'll probably say "none are really to my taste but life would be boring if we all like the same thing. Out of those I would pick _".

Do you like _? Well they're clearly asking for opinions. It's hardly going to be helpful if the only responses are "yes it's lovely." If 90% of posters say "I really don't like that because..." it's either a) going to make them rule it out (probably for the best if it's that widely unpopular) or b) decide they love it so much that even other people's negative feedback doesn't put them off. Win win. Either way they'll discover how much they actually love it, whether they can see past other people's opinions or not.

Depending on the name(s), the latter two questions usually get a mix of responses to balance it out anyway.

You have to have a thick skin to post on a names board. Many people don't wish to discuss with friends and family before the birth, and those who do can't necessarily trust loved ones to be honest. Better to seek that advice from strangers. As long as posters go into it in the knowledge that no name will be universally liked it's fine.

I definitely agree there are ways of saying things and there's no need to be out and out rude but an honest "I don't like it because..." is perfectly acceptable on a board like this. Surely that's the whole purpose of this place?

Onelife2024 · 29/01/2024 18:45

BoleynMemories13 · 29/01/2024 18:11

If someone doesn't want honesty they shouldn't seek opinions. This board would be totally pointless if we all just said 'gorgeous name hun' (I hate the term hun by the way, just pointing out that this is definitely not a 'hugs huni' board.

For me it depends how the post is worded:-

Which middle name? - I don't comment on the first name choice, it's clearly chosen and an opinion on it isn't being sought.

Which one do you prefer? OP requires honesty to make an informed decision. If I like all bar one or two, I will mention my dislike as they may find it useful, especially if many posters feel the same about the same name(s). I'll balance it out will positive comments on the name(s) I love. If I dislike them all, I will just tell them which one I dislike the least, being careful how I word it. I'm not going to pretend I love a name if I don't but I'll probably say "none are really to my taste but life would be boring if we all like the same thing. Out of those I would pick _".

Do you like _? Well they're clearly asking for opinions. It's hardly going to be helpful if the only responses are "yes it's lovely." If 90% of posters say "I really don't like that because..." it's either a) going to make them rule it out (probably for the best if it's that widely unpopular) or b) decide they love it so much that even other people's negative feedback doesn't put them off. Win win. Either way they'll discover how much they actually love it, whether they can see past other people's opinions or not.

Depending on the name(s), the latter two questions usually get a mix of responses to balance it out anyway.

You have to have a thick skin to post on a names board. Many people don't wish to discuss with friends and family before the birth, and those who do can't necessarily trust loved ones to be honest. Better to seek that advice from strangers. As long as posters go into it in the knowledge that no name will be universally liked it's fine.

I definitely agree there are ways of saying things and there's no need to be out and out rude but an honest "I don't like it because..." is perfectly acceptable on a board like this. Surely that's the whole purpose of this place?

Edited

I agree with this

Sash95 · 29/01/2024 21:38

BoleynMemories13 · 29/01/2024 18:11

If someone doesn't want honesty they shouldn't seek opinions. This board would be totally pointless if we all just said 'gorgeous name hun' (I hate the term hun by the way, just pointing out that this is definitely not a 'hugs huni' board.

For me it depends how the post is worded:-

Which middle name? - I don't comment on the first name choice, it's clearly chosen and an opinion on it isn't being sought.

Which one do you prefer? OP requires honesty to make an informed decision. If I like all bar one or two, I will mention my dislike as they may find it useful, especially if many posters feel the same about the same name(s). I'll balance it out will positive comments on the name(s) I love. If I dislike them all, I will just tell them which one I dislike the least, being careful how I word it. I'm not going to pretend I love a name if I don't but I'll probably say "none are really to my taste but life would be boring if we all like the same thing. Out of those I would pick _".

Do you like _? Well they're clearly asking for opinions. It's hardly going to be helpful if the only responses are "yes it's lovely." If 90% of posters say "I really don't like that because..." it's either a) going to make them rule it out (probably for the best if it's that widely unpopular) or b) decide they love it so much that even other people's negative feedback doesn't put them off. Win win. Either way they'll discover how much they actually love it, whether they can see past other people's opinions or not.

Depending on the name(s), the latter two questions usually get a mix of responses to balance it out anyway.

You have to have a thick skin to post on a names board. Many people don't wish to discuss with friends and family before the birth, and those who do can't necessarily trust loved ones to be honest. Better to seek that advice from strangers. As long as posters go into it in the knowledge that no name will be universally liked it's fine.

I definitely agree there are ways of saying things and there's no need to be out and out rude but an honest "I don't like it because..." is perfectly acceptable on a board like this. Surely that's the whole purpose of this place?

Edited

This was what I was trying to get at in my reply to OP, but you've worded it better. Completely agree.

Marlena1 · 31/01/2024 15:05

I agree, there's a thread currently about a name and I cannot get my head around how someone would think such a disgusting name is OK to call a baby. My own DDs names are not liked on here though and I know it's a bit hurtful to read so I'd never even comment on that thread (although I feel sorry for the poor child). I also know it's where I'm from and associations though.

Beamur · 31/01/2024 15:09

I love a baby name thread but generally try and be kind with my comments! One of my own choices was shot down in flames by my family. 😂

DinnaeFashYersel · 31/01/2024 15:13

You need your rake 2 things into account when asking random strangers for their opinions.

The internet is where people will be honest
People have vastly different tastes.

sunflowerpinks · 31/01/2024 16:44

I'm surprised how much weight some people give to the opinions of random strangers on mumsnet... these people might have very different tastes and styles to you?!

Some posters that hate my children's names have given their kids names that I absolutely hate.

KirstenBlest · 31/01/2024 18:23

there's a thread currently about a name and I cannot get my head around how someone would think such a disgusting name is OK
Do tell which one it is.

PaulCostinRIP · 31/01/2024 18:28

You shouldn't be on the internet if you're a snowflake who can't stand opposite opinions to yours.

ColleenDonaghy · 31/01/2024 18:47

KirstenBlest · 31/01/2024 18:23

there's a thread currently about a name and I cannot get my head around how someone would think such a disgusting name is OK
Do tell which one it is.

I really wanted to ask

Squirrelsbite · 31/01/2024 18:50

Some of the names are just daft anyway
do they ever think of the kid as a teenager/ adult with such a name

DocOck · 31/01/2024 18:56

Plenty of people have said on here that they hate both my name and the name of my kids (indirectly, I've not asked for opinions), but why would I care what they think? They are strangers and have no bearing on my life whatsoever.

HowDoTheyGetThroughLife · 31/01/2024 18:57

WeeOrcadian · 28/01/2024 23:58

If you don't want opinions, don't ask for them

Some names I've seen on here have been beyond hideous

that

KirstenBlest · 31/01/2024 19:04

My DC's names are either 'classic' or 'dull'
Mine is 'gorgeous' or 'ugly' IIRC

Not particularly asked myself, but they come up regularly.