Double barrelling our surnames - which order?

[Desupi]

Which sounds better?

Hedges - Perry
Perry - Hedges

Hedges-Perry

Ignore all the ignoramuses who can't perceive of a convention other than their own. Personally I like the system whereby the surnames follow either the female or male line, so any sons pass on their father's name to their children, whereas any daughters pass on their mothers surname (and therefore over time you can trace whole maternal/mitochondrial DNA and paternal/y- chromosome lineages)

Hedges-Perry is much better in my opinion. Perry-Hedges makes Perry sound like an adjective and Hedges sound like a noun to me 😄

Ah this stupid question again.

Why don't you ask Spanish people how they cope with multiple last names?

Or alternatively have a think.

Also you are aware you don't have to give your child your own or your partners/spouses last name?

I’m not branding a company.

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I prefer Hedges Perry although either option works!
We both double barrelled when we got married and picked the flow that we liked best which happened to be DH first, my name second. To my surprise MIL got upset about this - she is pretty traditional and thought the male name should be last, she feared that their family name was at risk of being dismissed or something. We did it anyway and she dropped it but just sharing in case this might be something you have to navigate.

I don't love being double barrelled, to be honest, but I still can't think of a better option for us. It was a "least bad" thing. We wanted a shared family name but I was reluctant to simply take my husband's surname for several reasons. I sometimes feel a bit guilty for saddling our kids with it though!

i would make Perry a middle name, as it also makes sense in this context for either gender, and hedges the surname.

I don't think they flow easily together as a double barrel in either combination sorry.

Hedges Perry although not much in it. You might loose the H if you went for Perry-Hedges. "Perryedges"

Both are a bit cumbersome.

Can you use Herry instead.

I ‘d go with Hedges Perry.
And I agree with a pp there is definitely more gravitas to Hedges Perry.

Put the first (and any other) names in the sequence and see what works best.

[I have two names Spanish style, although one parent not Spanish, and sometimes hyphenated in the UK, but it looked too odd.]

Perry Hedges flows but I would not have a hyphen - just the double barrel name.

Hedges Perry does have an advantage of coming first in the alphabet though so I would go with that.

Stick with Perry by itself, it’s strong.

Perry-Hedges

Hedges-Perry, definitely