DH name ideas

[ParrotPaula]

DH and I are very very unexpectedly expecting twin girls, I'm 39, he is 48. He already has one child, she's an adult now, and well I'd never say this to her face but I think her name is just awful (first name is a country which should never have been a name (ie not Georgia or India) then two middle names which scream I want to prove how middle class I am!!) As far as I know she likes her name so that's all that matters. The issue is, his name suggestions for these babies are similar in style.

So far he loves

India
Cherry?? Yes really
Dakota
Indiana
Blossom (though obviously not with cherry is what he'd follow this up with)
Teddy
Saskia
Alaska

I like

Madeleine
Florence
Isabella
Sophia
Elizabeth
Katherine
Victoria

So as you can see our styles are worlds apart, he thinks my choices are boring and "done to death" I think his are downright strange for a child.

I know I should have expected this considering his daughters name but I just thought maybe that was more his ex than him.

FWIW while he is comfortably off, his daughter attended a state school in the north as will our children so will likely not be surrounded by equally, interesting? Names.

Am I being unfair are some of his names useable? Any ideas that could bridge our Grand Canyon sized gap in styles? (gosh if I say that to him he will no doubt add Arizona to the list!)

Tabloids would love this OP.
“Mum to be fumes over husbands baby name choices and slams his daughter’s name as “awful” and “not middle class enough”.

I’d ask for it to be deleted personally. Mumsnet themselves use live threads as adverts on Facebook.

What about Sienna? Might hit both of your criteria - a bit less classic than your list, but it is a royal name now. Probably not to match with twin Florence though haha.

I also quite like the name Saskia, there was one who went to our state school and it was seen as a perfectly normal name. Although thinking about it now we also had a Cherry!

China wouldn't be my personal choice for a name, but at least it's far better than Turkmenistan or StVincentAndTheGrenadines. China Forbes is quite a well-known singer.

Wouldn't something like India and Cherry be strange, though - having two of them (not both of the twins) with country names and one with a non-country name?

I can't believe you've named your SD having been nasty about her name in your OP! There can't be many teenagers with her name and all her friends have parents who could be here.

I've seen an app called Kinder recommended on threads like this. You both go through and select names you like and the app tells you which you've both selected.

I'd get this thread deleted OP.

Victoria - plenty of places named Victoria

Madison - this was my first thought

Adelaide is nice.

Other suggestions-
Savannah
Marnie
Marina
Jasmine

Congrats on your girls! I can see the challenge haha

I think more "out there" names can make really cool middle names! There are also some classics that I feel I don't hear often anymore. Seeing as how my personal favorites come from both your lists, maybe there is a happy middle :)

Belle Victoria
Olive Saskia

Cassia Florence
Celeste Taylor

Thea Lavender nn Teddy
Paige Cassidy

Anna Quinn
Tess Madeleine

Maeve Josette nn MJ
(Demi) Demetria Rose

Jade Whitney
Roxanne Mae nn Roxy

Annika Renee nn Nik, Annie
Davina Shay

Anya Verity
Alix Elizabeth

Harlow Eve nn Lo, Harley
Stephanie Isla nn Stevie

Felicity Petra
Natalie Vienna

Stella Jane
Maxine Luna

Baye Madeleine
Erin Ivy

Samantha Teddy
Gemma Grace nn Gigi, Emmy

Aria Blake
Phoebe Blossom

I really like the name India and Saskia is ok too.

What’s wrong with those middle names?

Sophia and Isabella are fine but immensely popular.

Yes!

Can't you have a Theodora and call her teddy? Although I really like Teddy!

I would get this deleted.

Waiting for the DailyFail to pick this up in 3...2...1...

Saskia is a perfectly lovely and quite normal name. How about Saskia and Ottilie?

India is lovely but a bit problematic.

It looks like he likes unusual names and you like more classic, very feminine names. How about looking at Shakespearean names, unusual Biblical names, Ancient Greek or Roman names or French names? You might find some common ground there - unusual enough for him but not in the place/noun names category that he likes and you hate.

One classic name (your taste) paired with one of his style. ie:

Eden Victoria
Sienna Madeleine
Verity Elizabeth
Madison Elise
Pheobe Saskia
Verona Isabelle

In response to his choices
India - does he want to imprint an image of a country that treats its women and girls with such violence and degradation ? Really? One for patriarchy
Cherry?? Yes really hmm, doesn’t he realise “ taking her…”
Dakota - has he been there? Really? Flat, endless grain and casinos? Nothing romantic about that
Indiana - god in heaven, I worked for company based in Indianapolis for 39 years, we’re talking bible bashing, mid west conservatism, home of pence, and all the right wing anti abortion, gun slinging, capital punishment views you could want.

Blossom (though obviously not with cherry is what he'd follow this up with) - least bad but too twee …sounds like a donkey or cow frankly

Teddy - historically a boys name short for Edward. Ok, if it was a nick name, but not as a female first name
Saskia - ok, not that original though
Alaska - as in baked Alaska, or just freezing cold,

what’s with his obsession with USA state names- send him on a road trip op, but leave his daughters out of his misguided devotion to an idealised version of USA. it’s the equivalent of calling his daughters Cotswold, Yorkshire (Yorkie of short?), or Rutland. Why would he not consider that, ask him? 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦‍♀️🙄

Didn't Katie Hopkins once call people stupid when they name their children after places - despite having a DD herself called India?!

Adelaide.
Savannah.
Sydney
Aspen
Cheyenne
Juneau
Liberty
Eden
Rio
Paris
Helena
Juno
Grimsby

@ParrotPaula
My daughter is called Cherry, yes, really. It was my DH's idea and it grew on me. Her middle name isn't Blossom or Pie but might have been if my DH was Jamie Oliver.
Anyway your name choices are so much better than your DH's, excepting the Cherry.

Adelaide and Florence are beautiful sound nice together and lots of nn options I hope your husband goes with them.

Well Saskia is perfectly nice - could you live with that ?

Saskia and Sophia - you get one each.

India and Sophia are nice together, have matching endings but different sounding names

I was at school with a Geraldine (quite grand, very nice family) nicknamed Cherry. Just because of the sound, I think. Its a tree with exceptionally pretty blossom and also very sweet, tasty fruit. Nothing not to like,,,

Dakota = the name of some Native American peoples. DEEPLY. DEEPLY disrepectful to call a child of a different heritage that.

Indiana = literally 'the home of ""Indians"" - ie of the peoples who Europeans massacred, conquered and turned off their homeland.

Is your DP some kind of Trumpist white supremacist??

Haha I prefer your name choices. Ideas for a compromise.

Jasmine
saffron
vienna
clememtine
tallulah
juniper
autumn
eden
estelle
celeste
adeline
mabel
melody
adelaide
Zara
cora
thalia
arabella
violet
meredith
olive

I also like Saskia

what about

juliet
cassandra
louisa
indigo
xanthe
lindsay
merran
meredith
rachel
miranda
lucinda
jacqueline
maggie