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Did you absolutely love your baby name?

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Zebed31 · 04/09/2023 18:05

Just that really, I’m expecting a baby girl and we’ve settled on a name that I think is.. ok? It’s a compromise between DH and I as there were some names I was in love with but he said no.

Do you think it’s ok to pick a standard name you’re okay with but don’t love? I can’t shake the feeling I’m doing my baby a disservice (probably pregnancy hormones!)

Just for context we’ve decided on Charlotte, which I like but I had Clara, Matilda and Penelope on my list which DH wasn’t keen on 😫

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Justaponder · 04/09/2023 18:28

Both of my children would have different names to the ones given had it been my decision alone, however my partner and I came to a compromise both times. We both liked the names chosen of course and have grown to love them, given that they're now our children's names.
I think those who share exactly the same taste in names / have the same favourites as their partner are very lucky - it's makes for a much easier process!

elQuintoConyo · 04/09/2023 18:40

Luckily, as Justaponder mentioned, we both love the name, even 14 years later.

mandymion · 04/09/2023 18:43

I am similar to you OP in that it wouldn't be my first choice but it was the only one we both liked enough and agreed on. I guess you have to have a bit of compromise in a relationship.

It might also be nice for you to both allow yourselves a bit of wiggle room in that when the baby arrives it might not seem like a Charlotte, but something else, that you can together agree on when she is born, that suits her perfectly. When you meet her you will know!

Chocolatelover888 · 04/09/2023 18:44

I still love my DS1 and DD’s names - first choice names for both of us luckily. Expecting DS2 and have had to come to a compromise this time - probably my third or fourth choice name and his second choice but I still really like it, just don’t absolutely adore it. I’m sure I will once he’s here though :)

LittleBoPeepHasLostHerShit · 04/09/2023 18:46

No. They're traditional (in honour of family members). They're a little 'boring' maybe. But I love them now because they are the names of my babies. It's something for their whole life so I'm kind of glad I didn't have come up with something that I might not like so much in ten years.

AliasGrape · 04/09/2023 18:58

My daughter has the name I’d loved for years and imagined calling a daughter if I had one. Also, whilst she’s not named after anyone exactly (first name anyway) her name does have a particular significance to my family/ background.

We had chosen a compromise name which was a like but not love for me, however it was the one I liked most of all the ones we actually agreed on whilst I was pregnant.

Then when she was born DH looked at her and said ‘oh no, she’s not a compromise name at all is she, I think we should go with my original choice, I actually like it now. I’ll never know if it was a genuine change of heart or him just feeling like I should have my way after a very difficult birth! He definitely loves her name now, and you’d think he came up with it himself.

If she’d been a boy she would definitely have had a name I was just ok with, we struggled far more with boys names and I felt equally ‘meh’ about all of those we came up with for a shortlist - I’m sure I’d have grown to love whatever we eventually chose though!

Strokethefurrywall · 04/09/2023 19:02

Yep loved my boys' names and still love them now 12&9 years on!

Soubriquet · 04/09/2023 19:04

Yup. I picked our DD’s and dh liked it to so that was easy.

With ds it was a bit harder. He wanted one name, I wanted another. We settled on the one I picked but I kept dreaming of the one dh picked.

in the end we chose dh’s name

TheNameIsDickDarlington · 04/09/2023 19:06

I don't like my eldest child's name, it was a compromise name that I suggested and DH loved, but it's very normal and I don't think it's got much personality to it.

Middle child's name I absolutely love! I would rename him the same thing every time if I could go back. I'd wanted to use the name since I was a teen. Dh didn't like it but the birth was pretty awful so he let me have it and now says he loves it, it just took some getting used to as we had negative comments.

Third child's name is fine. It was on my list as a compromise name, but it does suit him. The names I originally wanted I still love, but they're quite "out there" for where we live and DH could not be talked around. If I'm ever lucky enough to have another child I know exactly what to call them though.

Devilsmommy · 04/09/2023 19:08

I chose DS name and luckily DH loved it. It's a name you don't hear often but not so unique that it's cringy 😁

LilyLemonade · 04/09/2023 19:08

My DD’s name was a compromise and what’s more it had a spike in popularity the year of her birth so now there are many kids around with the same name. As a result it feels a bit boring but it’s a very classic name (like Charlotte) so will carry her through life well. She likes it too.

Nonplusultra · 04/09/2023 19:10

They definitely grew on me, but they were compromises. I can’t really imagine them now with the names I would have chosen.

Jellycats4life · 04/09/2023 19:13

It sounds like you really aren’t sure.

I remember having a boy name and a girl name for DC2 (we didn’t find out the sex) and the girl’s name was my husband’s suggestion. I’d convinced myself it was the right choice but I did have doubts.

We had a boy and my first thought was relief that we wouldn’t end up using the name, which says a lot I think.

DramaAlpaca · 04/09/2023 19:14

My three boys are in their 20s and I still love their names. Luckily DH agreed with all the names I chose, middle names included.

35and3 · 04/09/2023 19:14

I love dd1 and dd2 names - both my first choice. For ds we never agreed so compromised. It's fine. I can't imagine him as anything else now but it's only fine.

BananaSun1989 · 04/09/2023 19:17

I adored it from the moment I heard it- still love it now. Though someone on MN thought it was a joke name!

alwaysmovingforwards · 04/09/2023 19:19

What not go round again.
You've found names you both don't love... so keep going until you find one you both do!

Better to take longer than one party compromise imo.

DavinaTheDreadful · 04/09/2023 19:24

We couldn't agree on a name either and had very different taste.

With dc1 we made a deal where we made a shortlist of acceptable names and dh picked the girl name. I picked the boy name. We had a girl and used the name dh picked. I liked it a lot but would have picked something more unusual.

For dc2 we again whittled it down to a shortlist and I picked from the shortlist (because dh picked for dc1).

I now love both names. Dc1's is very classic and easy to spell etc. Dc2's is an Irish name (I'm Irish), and I love it.

bakewellbride · 04/09/2023 19:28

I have a Charlotte - we both absolutely adore the name. Only pick a name you really love imo so maybe back to the drawing board for you.

Gillyyy · 04/09/2023 19:31

I don’t think you sound sure, maybe there’s another name that you’ll both love?

I really like your choices, some other ideas might be:
Rosanna - the one I know goes by Zanna which is lovely, and there’s always Rose/Rosie/Annie
Zara
Beatrice/Beatrix - Bea, Trixie, Bertie
Verity
Flora

Fingers crossed you find the perfect name!

munchmagic · 04/09/2023 19:36

I very much love my children's names. I adore them.
Both names look beautiful written down, sound lovely to say, will work at any age and really suit our children.
Our daughter has a name I fell in love with back in the 90s. The name has recently gained popularity but was really rare when we named her! Our son has a traditional name.
Charlotte is lovely OP and has cute nickname possibilities too (Charlie, Lottie). But if you aren't completely sure please remember you don't need to commit to the name yet. Baby isn't here yet so you can wait and see when she arrives.

Whatsthepoint1234 · 04/09/2023 20:16

Nope, I had to compromise a lot due to differing nationalities and religions of dh and I - along with names that work in the UK. At the time I called my dc names that I thought were too ‘boring’ but now at 13 and 7 I love their names!

Lasttimehonest · 04/09/2023 21:16

I absolutely love both my DD names, probably DD1 name slightly more (loved it since I was a child), but you name the first born the favoured name as obviously it’s not guaranteed you will get another chance to use it! But my DH didn’t have loads of ideas of his own and gave me free rein on choosing names. Although they are quite traditional ‘safe’ names.

foolishone · 04/09/2023 21:19

If I had a name I really loved and he was just a bit 'meh' about it, I'd expect to have the casting vote.
Sorry but after carrying and then delivering this baby and all that comes with that, like fuck am I going with a name I don't love.

covidagainnn · 04/09/2023 21:57

No. I was convinced we were having a girl and had the chosen girl's name in my minds eye clearly. The boys' names had been much harder to choose however and we had ended up choosing a "this is the least worst option" name for if it was a boy.

When the midwife said it was a boy I remember feeling shocked and then not believing his name was therefore X forthe first couple of days.

I soon got used to it though and now I can't imagine anything else! I love his name!

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