Name with negative meaning

[IvyMae222]

My partner and I have chosen and love the name we have chosen for our unborn son and have our hearts set on it.
We looked up the name meaning later on and found out what it means.

The name sounds similar to my name as well as my mother's name but not too similar that it detracts from individuality.

There are a couple positive meanings to the name but the most popular isn't.

What I'm wondering is if we go ahead with naming our son this name, would it be selfish even though our choosing has nothing to do with the origin meaning? I've tried to think of alternatives but no other names feel right now and it was the only name we both agreed on.

Thanks heaps in advance!

There are a lot of seriously rubbish baby name websites!

For me Name meanings are VERY important.

We actually discarded many names due to meanings however most people don't care.

I doubt anyone other than you and your child will look up the meaning of the name

I wondered if it might be Amelia before you confirmed it was Tristan.

The association with sadness is a misconception. There’s a clear etymology of the name which traces back to Proto-Celtic trusto, which leads to modern Welsh trwst and Cornish tros. The French and Welsh triste and trist are almost certainly coincidental homophones.

The excellent British Baby Names blog (one of the few very well-researched online name resources!) explains it in this post and gives a good history of the usage: https://www.britishbabynames.com/blog/2013/06/tristan.html