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Is using the month someone was born as a name really an honour?

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MapleandCheddar · 24/08/2023 12:03

My niece has just been given my birth month as a middle name (I share it with my mum) and my sister says it is after us both. I mean, is it really? I'm not trying to be ungrateful and I certainly don't want to actually be obviously honoured anyway... I'd just rather she didn't say it was! As I'm not sure it really is? Just curious what other people think.

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maslinpan · 24/08/2023 12:31

Ridiculous. Unless she has picked a month which isn't already an established name, then it's just a name she likes. And your mum is forgetting that other people have probably (!!) also been born in that month, is she honouring them too?

MushMonster · 24/08/2023 12:34

I think it is a beautiful gesture which seems to be wasted on you.

RecklessBlackberries · 24/08/2023 12:37

I don't see how "April is a name with a lot of meaning to me since it's a special time of year for me as it reminds me of two people I love" isn't a sweet and nice gesture.

You can be pedantic about whether it's "naming them after you" (obviously it's technically not) but the sentiment is a nice one.

TipsyAndTommy · 24/08/2023 12:37

Sounds like she was just trying to do a nice thing? Just accept it for what it is and be pleased?

StampOnTheGround · 24/08/2023 12:38

Sounds lovely to me

RitzyMcFitzy · 24/08/2023 12:38

She's very fond of you.
She's not very fond of your name.

And that's okay.

Samzzz · 24/08/2023 12:40

It’s a lovely gesture? I would be made up if that was my sister

loveclipbook · 24/08/2023 12:41

April, May, June fine.
Any other month would be unusual.

Magenta82 · 24/08/2023 12:45

Sounds like a really lovely, sweet gesture from someone who thinks a lot of you.

shockthemonkey · 24/08/2023 12:45

No, not really. She’s stretching it. However all you need to do is act honoured/ touched/ humbled and move on!

Csnt imagine my sister naming her baby October then telling me it was in my honour. I’d still play along as what else is there to do? 😅

LakeTiticaca · 24/08/2023 13:01

Never heard of anyone doing this before but hey why not?
It's not really hurting anyone is it?

Whatsthepoint1234 · 24/08/2023 17:24

I think that’s quite sweet to be honest!

MyAnacondaMight · 24/08/2023 19:19

If it’s May/Mai/Mae then I’d assume they are unimaginative and are now doing some reverse engineering to pretend it has meaning.

If it’s another month then I think it’s quite sweet.

ImABox · 24/08/2023 19:20

Isn’t that a nice thing to make you feel connected and loves?

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 24/08/2023 19:20

MushMonster · 24/08/2023 12:34

I think it is a beautiful gesture which seems to be wasted on you.

This!

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MapleandCheddar · 24/08/2023 19:51

It's June. I did feel it was maybe a bit how you say with the May thing though, that they have done it as they like it and then after added a meaning to it, it's not wasted on me don't worry :) my mum was born in June as well. To the person who said they don't want to use my name or like it or whatever it was that's fine! I wouldn't want my name used anyway Grin it wasn't about the fact I thought I wasn't honoured enough or something just that I didn't see the need for them to claim it's because of that but clearly I'm being unfair then

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BridgetJonesDaiquiri · 24/08/2023 20:50

It's not a common thing, but it sounds like a sweet (and genuinely thought out) gesture. A nod to you and your mum without having to pick one of your actual names. Not really sure how you could see it any other way?

user1492757084 · 25/08/2023 10:18

If she said that was her reasoning, it must be so.
June has resonance with her because it is the birthday month of her sister and mother.
Obviously your niece will be taught the birthday connection of her name and that is super sweet..

Samzzz · 25/08/2023 11:20

I think it obviously is in honour of you and your mum and is really sweet. I don’t understand how you think any different??

Azandme · 27/08/2023 07:57

It's not a popular name at the moment, and I can't really see many people thinking "Oooh JUNE!" and then having to reverse engineer it.

I'd believe her. Two people she loves, wants to honour both, both born in June - that'll do nicely!

Sjh15 · 27/08/2023 07:59

I’d say yes it’s a lovely thing & perhaps you questioning it may upset her if it’s genuine so don’t let her know you’re unsure lol

BillyNotQuiteNoMates · 27/08/2023 08:25

Would she have used the name if it didn’t work? Probably not, tbh. Eg I’d be surprised if she’s made the SAME gesture, if you’d both been born in December. But then she may have found a different way to acknowledge you both.
But it sounds as if she’s made an effort to acknowledge you both as important people in the life of your niece, and I’d be touched by it. June isn’t exactly a common name, so take it in the manner it was meant.

SophiaElise · 27/08/2023 08:30

MyAnacondaMight · 24/08/2023 19:19

If it’s May/Mai/Mae then I’d assume they are unimaginative and are now doing some reverse engineering to pretend it has meaning.

If it’s another month then I think it’s quite sweet.

I was just about to type this!

Edit: I can see it's June. Nice gesture!

continentallentil · 27/08/2023 08:52

Well it’s what it means to her.

I’m guessing she just like it, and the fact it was you and your mum’s birth month was a nice bonus that might have swung it.

Are you normally this much of a sourpuss?!

Squirrelsnut · 27/08/2023 08:54

I think it's a lovely gesture. Do you have a tricky relationship with your sister?

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