Changing my name again!!!

[Mrsbrown2013]

So I’m changing my surname to my husbands after 10 years of marriage. I had a double barrelled but now just want my husbands. In that process I decided I wanted a middle name as when I changed my name by deed poll (always hated my birth first name, so finally changed it) I didn’t give myself one. But as I’m looking at names, I have one chosen Isabella to honour a 5th great grandmother who came to England from Ireland in the late 1800’s, I feel a pull to her since doing the family tree.

anyway I named myself sara love the name, etc but I discovered a name I used to unofficially go by yara it’s so similar but I think maybe I should have picked that rather than Sara. I know the faff of name changing and family etc were not on board and I believe some call me my birth name still. So am prepared for awkwardness. Am also willing for them to keep calling me sara but everyone else and legally be yara.

im not sure if i should, I changed my name a few years ago, and am again really taking time to think about it. I don’t want to make a mistake although maybe I already did.

opinions please.

Sara is nicer than yara.

Sara is nicer than Yara. Middle names are basically pointless (and adding one now will cause faff for little benefit) and you can use your husbands name without getting a deed poll.

Is there something else going on with you? A need to reinvent yourself or something?

Although understandable to change your first name if you’ve always hated it, this second change seems unnecessary and a bit odd to be honest.
It’ll cause a lot of tedious explanations to friends family and colleagues.

noth like that at all, lol. I always hated my name, how it was picked and felt it wasn’t my name.

I have thought if I changed my first name again it would be explaining etc, surname most family I’ve just told them I’m hsame as husband, but legally because I did deed poll I’m double barrelled so changing again to legally be same as him. And I always had a middle name, didn’t put one in an now I want one because I miss it. Both my girls have 5 middle names all carefully chosen. I want to now do the same for myself.

I come from a toxic family and in some ways I’m re-parenting myself, choosing my name with care and love as I’ve done to my own is something I feel never happened and I’m doing it for myself as I said but also choosing names that are not only nice but reflect who I am. But I can see why you might have that thought.

Personally I like middle names and miss having one ,it’s a personal thing. because I legally changed my surname as well I have to do a deed poll to change it again. So using the opportunity to add a middle name or 2, lol. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.