Has anyone decided for definate on names BEFORE the baby is born?

[bebejones]

I am having a real dilema as I keep changing my mind on names that we have picked out! (We don't know the sex....yet)We loved Thomas for a boy....but our surname is Jones and we just thought that would be a bit unfair! We also liked Grace for a girl....but that's a no go aswell! I think we have narrowed it down but I feel safer leaving it to wait and see what they look like and what their personality is like. Has anyone definately decided on a name and is sticking to it? Has anyone had a name picked out and then when the baby was born they really didnt suit it? We have compromised on Thomas as we like it so much so will probably use it as a middle name! Also I am worried that if I make a definate decision by the time the baby arrives I won't like the name! It seems like such a big responsibility...after all this is the name they will have to grow up with!

We picked all our children's names before the births and were sure. Certainly made life easier.

bebejones lol at yr post.

I was talking to a Mrs Jones the other day and she said how she couldn't call any baby she had Tom or Grace!

To answer your title, we had the name we needed for deffo in all 3 cases (ie had a boy's name for DS1, a girl's name for DD etc)

I would say a common (in the nicest way) name like Jones can take a more unusual first name.

I really wanted a Thomas, sigh.

Sadly Tommy doesn't go (or rather goes too well) with our surname.

We did use it for DS2's middle name though.

Our three dds names (first and middle) were all picked before they were born - dd1 had her name by the 20 week scan - I was so sure I was having a girl.

I found out the sex at 20 weeks in all three pregnancies and settled on a name as quickly as possible after that and started referring to the baby using it. I find with the 2nd and3rd that it is also great for the older kids - makes the whole thing more real. I don't think it hurts with the DH either, for whom babies only become interesting when they can say Papa or kick a ball . With my two DS's I never had a moments doubt that the name suited them once I saw them.

My biggest problem is indecision! I'm like it with everything and DH has now banned me from talking about names! He is quite happy to pick one of our choices when the baby arrives so I think that is what we will do. Cant wait til the 20 week scan, I really want to know what we are having! Angel2008 I prefer Phoebe to Hannah as well but Hannah is a family name for both of us and DH loves it! Has anyone else found that they ruled out names because of negative associations with people they knew when growing up? DH and I ruled out so many because of people at school we knew that we didnt like!!

We had a boys name and a girls name picked for ds very early on, and when he was born knew he fitted his name and called him that from the moment he was pulled out. With dd we spent an incredibly long time trying to find a boys name we liked, mainly because we both liked Ezra but thought it might be difficult to carry off, so kept on trying to find something else! In the end we realised that we always thought of the baby as Ezzie so not much point thinking of anything else. As it happens it turned out to be dd, which was a bit of a surprise and then it took a while for her name to stick because we hadn't really discussed girls names at all. We played around with a few other names for a while before reverting to our orignial choice. Very happy with both names now.

Had names ready for all three of ours - both boys and girls (they are all girls). DD2 & 3 both had the same boys name. I did want dd1's name shortened but it just never happened and she's always called by her full name. With dd2 I said right from the start that she would be called the shorter version of her name (and she is), and wanted to call dd3 a shortened version of her name, but again that never happened!

Whatever names you choose, your baby will be that person right from the start! Love all of your choices by the way - dd3 is Elizabeth!

We had decided on names well before our childen were born. They had to be Welsh, and NOTHING in the Top 10 lists. So we had Hywel for a boy, and Eleri for a girl. Incidently, I know only one Grace, but there are at least 7 little boys called Thomas that I know, so be prepared for lots of confusion at school etc!

Had a name for my ds, all the way through pregnany he was refered to as Oliver, people would ask "hows Oliver doing?" not "oh hows the baby". but when pregnant with dd, I had no names, I knew she was a girl and still couldnt think of one, took 3 days from her birth to name her.

Dont worry, you will see her and have a fair idea, but please not one of those dulux names, I mean some random colour out of a chart like, lilac fern, or misty may!! just tooo cruel, erm not that Im standing in judgement if anyones dd is called magnolia!!

My darling mum has just informed me that she is christening a child next week(she is a vicar) and the poor thing (a girl) is called Hunny-Jo! I just think that is cruel. Again no offence intended if your child is named that!!