Family drama over a name

[MissMoodyMoo]

So my sister is about 10 weeks ahead of me and has found out what she is having. She's having a boy and picked her name which is lovely. We haven't found out and have our boys name and struggled for a girls name, I mentioned I'd like to use my grannys name as a first name and she has went MAD saying that's her girls name and she wants to use it in the future blah blah. Baring in mind she is currently single so I'm not sure who to or when her future babies will appear. I was really close to my granny and spent a lot of time with her when my papa died. My sister didn't even visit or go to her funeral after she died! So I'm a bit like wtf it's not even a name set in stone just a name brought up in conversation but I'm a bit of an arse myself and it makes me want to use it even more now lol!!!!

Naming babies after people is fine. Reserving names isn’t

I would tell her a few 'perfect' fake names that you love and adore and distract her from names you really like. Bonus points if she uses a distraction name to spite you!

Pfft. Ignore! Then do whatever you’d like to do.

You can your granny's name and she can use granny's name too if she ever has a daughter. You both have equal dibs and anyone who chooses to get in a strop over it needs to be dunked in a well to cool down.

Sisters are so dramatic.

She's being ridiculous. Of course it's not 'her' girls name for a theoretical future child.
In any case, there's no law against cousins having the same name - in our family each of the 4 sets had a John, one went by his middle name but that wasn't to avoid a clash.

In terms of using dead relatives' names the only time I'd think it not a great idea is if there was a lot of tragedy around the relative's death. That can carry too much baggage. But a lovely granny who passed away peacefully in old age? That's perfectly fine to use.

She doesn’t own the name ! This is why you should never discuss names with anyone other than your partner.

I'm not sure either of you is old enough to have dc....?

Use whatever name you want - disengage from the drama

Both use the name if you both have girls.
cousins with the same name especially honouring family members really is no problem