Are you telling your families the name ahead of the birth...?

[vickyy]

My dh's and my family are driving us nuts asking us about names, and giving us their (very strong) opinions on any name we say we're thinking about. I am getting really fed up with it.

We haven't been able to decide on a name yet, but I am worried that when we do choose one, if we tell them ahead of the birth they may put pressure on us to change it if they don't like it.

What are others doing? And are your famililes as difficult as ours... (in our case, it's made more complicated by us being a mixed race couple, so trying to find a "compromise" name - how I hate that idea...)

we told everyone first time at 20 weeks and it felt right ..

2nd time I told Mum and she started stroking my tummy and saying the name so I told her we had changed our minds about the name but couldn't think of a new one.. We hadn't changed our minds but I couldn't cope with her talking to my bump that way

Only annoying thing about not naming baby or knowing what sex it is is that my mum has taken to call it bob-along. She phones and says "hows bob-along". For some reason it really irritates me. How come she can't just call it the baby.

My dd was called Milly Molly before she was born as our surname fitted nicely with the fictional character

Dh's family who he rarely sees really thought that was her name for a while

We didn't tell. The PILs clearly hate all our daughters names (you give your children such lovely MIDDLE names was one of MILs choicer comments) so I am glad we kept it to ourselves beforehand. It does amaze me that anyone thinks they have the right to comment.