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Baby names
Advice baby name
MissCcc · 18/03/2023 09:45
Some advice please. Ex partner had woman call up when I was 5 months pregnant saying she’s been seeing him for 7 months then sent me his tinder profile.
I kicked him out and have just had our baby boy. Had emergency c section, sepsis and 2 weeks in hospital which I put down to stress from it all.
now he wants me to call our boy after him! There is no way I want that but he is not taking no for an answer what should I do
MuddyFeet01 · 18/03/2023 09:46
Tell him where to go, you will be making the choice. Don’t even contemplate or discuss it.
WaltzingWaters · 18/03/2023 09:52
use whatever first name you want and your surname. Do not even consider using his! Pick a lovely name that you want and register baby as soon as possible and don’t tell him until it is done.
fruitbrewhaha · 18/03/2023 09:53
Do you mean his surname?
You can choose your baby’s name and you dont have to put the father on the birth certificate.
WhisperingAutistic · 18/03/2023 09:59
Just register the baby without him and use a name you want.
Twoinapod · 18/03/2023 11:06
He can’t force you to do anything. He can’t register the birth, you need to. So don’t tell him when then appointment is and just go do it.
Luredbyapomegranate · Yesterday 14:01
Well he has to take no for an answer because there’s nothing he can do about it.
Just say no. Or just say ‘yeah’ and then go and register the baby what you want and tell him afterwards. Personally I would give it your surname - or at least both your surnames
BevMarsh · Yesterday 14:16
He has no option but to take your big fat NO. The cheeky beggar.
NO to first name
NO NO to surname
Do not tell him when you are registering baby as he will only turn up and try to bully you.
user1492757084 · Today 03:35
You are finished with him. You register the name.
Name the child with your surname.
It's your choice for first name, second name and surname.
If you wanted to be generous you could acknowledge your son's forefathers by having his father's surname as a second middle name.
You could not stomach naming the child after his father.
Names like - Cad, Cheater, Tinder and Rogue would make you sad every time you said his name.
Twazique · Today 09:18
As everyone has said, you don't have to do what he says. Best thing is to put him off and refuse to discuss it with him, keep your conversations to text/email/etc so you have proof of everything, keep your answers short.
Register the birth yourself. are you in hospital still? With one of mine I could register him while I was in hospital.
Use your surname and a first name you like.
You could use a really strong first name, Alexander Alexandra means defender of men.
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