Advice baby name

[MissCcc]

Some advice please. Ex partner had woman call up when I was 5 months pregnant saying she’s been seeing him for 7 months then sent me his tinder profile.
I kicked him out and have just had our baby boy. Had emergency c section, sepsis and 2 weeks in hospital which I put down to stress from it all.
now he wants me to call our boy after him! There is no way I want that but he is not taking no for an answer what should I do

[MuddyFeet01]

Tell him where to go, you will be making the choice. Don’t even contemplate or discuss it.

[Smogtopia]

Not his first name or surname!!!!! Absolutely no way

[WaltzingWaters]

use whatever first name you want and your surname. Do not even consider using his! Pick a lovely name that you want and register baby as soon as possible and don’t tell him until it is done.

[fruitbrewhaha]

Do you mean his surname?

You can choose your baby’s name and you dont have to put the father on the birth certificate.

[WhisperingAutistic]

Just register the baby without him and use a name you want.

[Twoinapod]

He can’t force you to do anything. He can’t register the birth, you need to. So don’t tell him when then appointment is and just go do it.

[Luredbyapomegranate]

Well he has to take no for an answer because there’s nothing he can do about it.

Just say no. Or just say ‘yeah’ and then go and register the baby what you want and tell him afterwards. Personally I would give it your surname - or at least both your surnames

[BevMarsh]

He has no option but to take your big fat NO. The cheeky beggar.

NO to first name
NO NO to surname

Do not tell him when you are registering baby as he will only turn up and try to bully you.

[Bunda]

Hell no

[Aphrathestorm]

Make sure he's not on the bc

[user1492757084]

You are finished with him. You register the name.
Name the child with your surname.
It's your choice for first name, second name and surname.
If you wanted to be generous you could acknowledge your son's forefathers by having his father's surname as a second middle name.
You could not stomach naming the child after his father.
Names like - Cad, Cheater, Tinder and Rogue would make you sad every time you said his name.

[Twazique]

As everyone has said, you don't have to do what he says. Best thing is to put him off and refuse to discuss it with him, keep your conversations to text/email/etc so you have proof of everything, keep your answers short.

Register the birth yourself. are you in hospital still? With one of mine I could register him while I was in hospital.

Use your surname and a first name you like.

You could use a really strong first name, Alexander Alexandra means defender of men.

[MissCcc]

So he’s trying to be clever - he said he finally understands I won’t have him called junior or Darren. Then suggested Darson - which I worked out means Darren’s son or dosiah which is still a no for me- I didn’t mind giving him same surname as we share a 10 year old with his surname but that means he’ll have to come to registry office.i offered other names beginning with D but he said no. hes been trying to butter me up. Tried to say he’ll be very unhappy just using lots of tactics. I think it’s all about him winning

[Sandysandwich]

He sounds ridiculous, what names do you like?

[Sandysandwich]

He doesn't have to come to the registry office in order for the baby to have his name. You can put any surname you want on the birth certificate.

[Tealsofa]

just say sure mate, when he asks and then register the name alone

[MissCcc]

I like lennox, Samuel or Kingsley just something CV worthy

[firealarmmum]

Do NOT allow him this much say!

No he doesn't need to attend. Go without him and don't tell him when. He lost the right to this much involvement when he betrayed you while you and your DC were pregnant.

Choose Samuel and ignore your ex and his shameless egotistical requests.

[Sandysandwich]

Samuel is a brilliant name, I would just go register him and tell him his son is called Samuel

[Baharrt]

How dare he?!
Don't do it and don't worry about anything. You and your sweetie will be fine.

[KirstenBlest]

Your surname, your choice of first name, your choice of any middle name.
Congratulations on your baby, and hope you are OK after all you've been through.

Do NOT let your dickhead ex have any say at all. I'd block him.

[KirstenBlest]

Samuel is definitely my favourite of your three names Suits any age and is a classic.

[drpet49]

@WhisperingAutistic

Just register the baby without him and use a name you want.

This

[fruitbrewhaha]

Er, this was back in March. OP has long since named her baby.

why did you resurrect this?

[Raspbear]

Even if he wasn't a cunt, Darson is terrible. Samuel is lovely, get it locked down OP!