Would you think this is weird?

[hulahoopqueen]

If you knew two cousins, with similar/rhyming names.

Mine and DH's niece is "Millie".
We're expecting a daughter this summer, and would like to call her "Lily".

MIL and SIL both think the names are far too close, and MIL has made it very clear that she's against it, and would feel awkward telling people in case they think that it's weird that the cousins have rhyming names.

"Millie" is hyphenated with another name, and has a different surname to myself and DH, so it would be eg:

Millie-Anne Stevens
Lily Tucker

Is it just me or is this not really that bad? DH is worried about family tension; I'm feeling a bit resentful that someone who we've seen only a handful of times in the last year is essentially getting a veto on the name. We see SIL and BIL and Millie every 6-8 weeks or so, for a few hours a time. This is usually at MIL's or grandparents' houses. When we've extended invitations, they're usually already busy, or the timing isn't convenient.

Please tell me whether or not I'm being the unreasonable one!

I knew Irish families where the eldest son was always named after the father and this was the same for all siblings so grandad is James, has a son known as Jim, Jim has two grandsons named after him, one known as Jimmy and the other as James, and each has a brother called John or Jonny!

Not weird. MIL is clearly making waves for no reason.

Also sounds like MIL has too much to say for herself.

Are you sure they think it's too similar and not that SIL has earmarked it for a future child's name and now they're both trying to put you off? 🤔

Use the name. It's not going to be a problem.

Nothing alike. And Lily is much nicer. Go for it.

It isn't at all odd The names are not that similar but even if they were I don't see why it matters.

Not an issue. DS's middle name is the same as my much younger cousin's first name. My auntie was delighted when she found out!

Your MIL and SIL are being pathetic

My grandmother was Lily, had a sister Milly and a brother Willy.

Name your baby whatever you want x

My DS has a cousin with exactly the same name (we didn't actually know about them when DS was born) My DH has a half sibling with a shortened version of his name like Thomas and Tom. Just name your baby whatever you like.

It's absolutely fine Ignore MiL

Your MIL & SIL are being weird & very unreasonable.
Your baby you chose the name!

Scotland, too - although traditionally the reference was to grandparents. Oldest son got the paternal grandfather's name, next son the maternal grandfather's. Oldest daughter got the maternal grandmother's name, next daughter the paternal grandmother's. So once upon a time, siblings called (for example) Alexander, Margaret, James, and Isabella would have multiple sets of cousins called Alexander and Isabella on the father's side, and Margaret and James on the mother's.

Millie and Lily don't seem very close to me; the names are unrelated and it's really a coincidence that they rhyme.

I have cousins with the exact same first name it’s never been a problem. Call your child what you want to call them! A name is forever

Not at all

It’s a non issue. Use lily and if they kick up a fuss tell them to swivel until they both grow up.

It's fine. It's your baby. I know 2 brothers called William and Philip.

Complete non issue. Half of my cousins seem to be called Michael and the other half Anne :) Rhyming names wouldn't even cross my mind as an issue. Your MIL and SIL should know better.

I can't believe you told people your baby names!

School girl error there, lady! 🙈😂

I think differently actually and I’m with the MIL. Imagine taking both grandkids to the park and calling out ‘Millie and Lily, come here!’ Or ‘here are my 2 granddaughters, Lily and Millie’. Just seeing it from her perspective. Are there no other names you like?

Just pick the name you like.

Not weird at all. Two different names. I think your MIL and SIL are being a bit silly about this.

Nope I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

Although MIL is entitled to have her own opinion she isn't entitled to start throwing her weight around saying @hulahoopqueen you should not be calling my granddaughter to be Lily.

Unless you are either the new baby's Mum or Dad you have no right in saying what the new baby should be called.

Not your baby, not your name choice!

Not weird at all. They're cousins, not siblings. Rhyming siblings would be weird. Many people never/rarely see their cousins, especially once they're teens/adults.