Middle name dilemma

[Mrbingleysbuttons]

Our 3yr old DS was given my DPs dad's name as a middle name in tribute/remembrance. We always said if we had a little girl, she would have my deceased DSis name as middle name.
Our second baby, due in a few months is another boy.
Given our family will be complete once newborn DS arrives, would we be silly to give him a male derivative of sisters name?
For example, if her name was Antonia, to give him the middle name Anthony?

I really don't know if this is perhaps a good idea or not?

That sounds like a lovely idea. Middle names with special meaning are ideal I think.

Perfectly nice and normal idea

It sounds great to me.

One word of advice, I would avoid two people in the same household have the same initials. DS and I have the same initials and it's caused no end minor mayhem over the years.

My personal view, others will disagree.
Unless you give a baby the actual name then you are not really naming after the person, so it seems pointless to me. Not using your sister's name for your baby doesn't mean you loved your sister any less or that she was less important to you.

If your older DS has your DP's father's name, why not give your second DS your father's name, so the brothers have that shared connection with each other?

Nice idea if there's a suitable name

It’s a lovely idea. Why not if there is a suitable name. Plenty of children get named after their father, grandfather, uncle etc and nobody bats an eye so why should the fact that the relation is female make a difference.

This is my concern put into words!
In years to come, if someone asks where does your middle name come from (a random question but could happen!) and they explain yet the name is a different name due to different sex.

This happened in my wider family. Uncle died in the Troubles, loads of Seans & Seaneens named after him. Though I agree with others that it would be equally nice to honour the other grandfather; especially as he is around and will get to have a relationship with your son.

I know of people with names like this, I don't think it's a weird thing to do it there is an obvious male/female version.

That doesn't seem unusual or silly at all to me. I know of quite a few people who have done similar - Alexandra instead of Alexander and Francis instead of Frances for example. I also know of families where the name just didn't work so they've chosen another with the same root, or meaning of a nickname that works to give a nod. I disagree that if it's not the same name, it's not a thing. It's the thought and it's meaning to you as a family that counts.

That is a beautiful idea! 😊

I do did with this, many people do the female/male version of a name. It's the sentiment behind it, imo

I would do exactly what you suggested if the male and female version are both quite well known and it's obvious they are related, e.g. Olivia/Oliver or Simone/Simon, but not if you had to scrape around and use a very obscure boys name (Amelia/Aemilianus) or one that isn't really related at all (Samantha/Samuel).

Yes, use the masculine form of your sister's name or her surname. Both would be meaningful.