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Initials FGM?

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AnnieApple123 · 13/12/2022 10:00

This has to be a no, right?

Such a shame as the names would be family names and would go so well together.

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Unsureofitall · 13/12/2022 10:04

Definitely no from me

BigGapMum · 13/12/2022 10:05

That's got to be a no, I'm afraid. Your DC would be saddled with that and it wouldn't be fair on them.

SomethingNastyInTheBallPool · 13/12/2022 10:05

Nope

EmpressaurusOfWitchesBackFromTheDead · 13/12/2022 10:06

Can you make it GFM?

Balaya · 13/12/2022 10:07

Add another middle name?

MassiveSalad22 · 13/12/2022 10:10

Yeah you can’t do it. Swap around or add in another!

SpinningFloppa · 13/12/2022 10:11

I wouldn’t

ladygindiva · 13/12/2022 10:11

Throw another middle name in, something short like Lee, Rose, Mia, Paul - sorry not sure if it's for a DD or DS!

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AnnieApple123 · 13/12/2022 10:12

Thank you. Yes, adding another middle name may be the answer. DS1 only has one middle name but we have two lined-up for if this one is a girl so could do the same for a boy.

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AnnieApple123 · 13/12/2022 10:13

ladygindiva · 13/12/2022 10:11

Throw another middle name in, something short like Lee, Rose, Mia, Paul - sorry not sure if it's for a DD or DS!

For a DS. Sorry should have said.

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AnnieApple123 · 13/12/2022 10:13

Gender currently unknown however.

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caringcarer · 13/12/2022 10:28

It's a no. Switch first and second names around or choose a different second name. I say this as a person whose initials are WC.

bibbiddybobbidyboo · 13/12/2022 10:33

They aren't going to be known as FGM in their adult life just FM. Although most people know the term it wouldn't be the first thing to jump out at me with those initials, no id say mostly women would associate those initials with it and not men. I think initials have to be very careful with spelling out actual words like ASS.

I think you're over-thinking it. MN is not representative of the general population with a wider age range and demographic.

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AnnieApple123 · 13/12/2022 10:36

bibbiddybobbidyboo · 13/12/2022 10:33

They aren't going to be known as FGM in their adult life just FM. Although most people know the term it wouldn't be the first thing to jump out at me with those initials, no id say mostly women would associate those initials with it and not men. I think initials have to be very careful with spelling out actual words like ASS.

I think you're over-thinking it. MN is not representative of the general population with a wider age range and demographic.

Yes I have had these thoughts too.

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MerryChristmasToYou · 13/12/2022 11:11

Don't add a filler middle name.

VenusClapTrap · 13/12/2022 12:10

bibbiddybobbidyboo · 13/12/2022 10:33

They aren't going to be known as FGM in their adult life just FM. Although most people know the term it wouldn't be the first thing to jump out at me with those initials, no id say mostly women would associate those initials with it and not men. I think initials have to be very careful with spelling out actual words like ASS.

I think you're over-thinking it. MN is not representative of the general population with a wider age range and demographic.

I agree with this. How often in life do your full initials come up? It’ll just be FM embroidered on PE shirts (if their school even does that).

PanicAtTheBigTesco · 13/12/2022 12:14

Where I work everything we do is referenced with our full initials so we see each other's initials many times a day, not sure what it's like at other places though.

ChessieFL · 13/12/2022 12:23

I use my full initials at work as there’s someone else with the same first name and surname initials so we have to use our middle name initials too to distinguish between us.

Reugny · 13/12/2022 12:32

PanicAtTheBigTesco · 13/12/2022 12:14

Where I work everything we do is referenced with our full initials so we see each other's initials many times a day, not sure what it's like at other places though.

I've worked in more than one company in a different sector where they use the name on your passport for email addresses and ids.

Even then they have to have email address/ids like TSSmith20.

Marcipex · 13/12/2022 12:34

No don’t. Switch it around or add another name in.

Reugny · 13/12/2022 12:38

AnnieApple123 · 13/12/2022 10:12

Thank you. Yes, adding another middle name may be the answer. DS1 only has one middle name but we have two lined-up for if this one is a girl so could do the same for a boy.

Don't do that.

I was given one more middle name than my siblings and half-siblings, so dropped one of them.

I talked to some of my extended family and friends who work with children including teens. Children need to feel they are treated the same as their siblings including the names they have been given and are used.

Reugny · 13/12/2022 12:39

Sorry I should add there are other situations where different types of names siblings have been given or could be given come into play.

Anewhoo · 13/12/2022 12:43

I don’t think anyone will notice. I’ve not written my child’s initials down like that for anything, usually just first and second name if anything. It’s fine. I know someone who had the initials IRA, has not been an issue for them so far. I don’t think I’ve ever written down my full initials, at work it’s only first and surname.

Flapjackquack · 13/12/2022 12:43

PanicAtTheBigTesco · 13/12/2022 12:14

Where I work everything we do is referenced with our full initials so we see each other's initials many times a day, not sure what it's like at other places though.

Same, it made me think really hard about initials! Lots of professional services firms do this. I changed the middle name we were going to use as it spells out an acronym for a crime - think GBH but that wasn’t it. Yes DS may never use his full initials but I didn’t want to saddle him with it regardless. Someone at work is SAD and someone else is BAD!

Flapjackquack · 13/12/2022 12:45

Reugny · 13/12/2022 12:38

Don't do that.

I was given one more middle name than my siblings and half-siblings, so dropped one of them.

I talked to some of my extended family and friends who work with children including teens. Children need to feel they are treated the same as their siblings including the names they have been given and are used.

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I think that’s a bit silly personally. My middle sibling has 2 middle names but the rest of us have 1. It never even occurred to me that was an issue, and we have a lot of issues with favouritism in our family. Middle sibling is not the favourite btw.