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Falllover89 · 12/12/2022 05:32

I have decided to name my second daughter Darcie and my mom has pretty much said she would have to call her by her middle name because she hates it so much. She says my other daughter has a better name and the new baby will resent me for giving her a horrible name. She keeps on to the point I feel like is actually bullying. I'm not willing to change her name as I know it's just the name that fits and it's what I want. But now I just want to cry because I can't even enjoy her name knowing her grandmother hates it. Should I keep the name I love or cave and change it to please my mom?

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 12/12/2022 05:48

Sorry to talk negatively about your mum but she's way out of line. No you shouldn't cave and change it. Did anyone dictate to her about what name or what not to name you. Darcie's a lovely name, BTW

Mumma · 12/12/2022 05:52

Call her Darcie... dont give her a middle name. Make her call your mother something terribly ageing like grandmama or gammy.

Cheeky f*cker! She has had her time and named her children. This is your time! Darcie is a lovely name.

heartbroken22 · 12/12/2022 05:59

It's a lovely name. Tell her to respect your wishes otherwise granddaughter will hate her.

Consufed · 12/12/2022 07:05

Don't change it.

Elspethelf · 12/12/2022 07:11

No one else is raising your child so no one else gets to name your child. Your mothers behavior is really inappropriate.

For your wellbeing, try and set boundaries now. Let her know her words hurt and aren’t acceptable. Ask her to keep opinions on the name to herself and let her know that you expect her to call your child by their given name.

PritiPatelsMaker · 12/12/2022 07:40

Agree with the others, you M is out of order.

My M said that she didn't like my DD's name when we had her. I can remember saying something along the lines of "you got to choose what your DC were called, was your DN so rude about my name?"

She's never mentioned it again! Grin

Do not let your M being horrible dissuade you from a name you love and definitely don't let her make you cry Flowers

Tripsabroad · 12/12/2022 07:49

Agree with everyone else. Your baby your choice. Don't accept her calling her anything but Darcie.

ofwarren · 12/12/2022 07:52

Nothing wrong with Darcie, it's a perfectly normal name.
Totally ignore her and call her what you like.

Eixample · 12/12/2022 07:54

It’s incredibly mean to a child to call him or her by the wrong name and will confuse the older sibling. Tell her she won’t see the children if she does this.
You’re in the right, she’s in the wrong.
My mother hates my children’s names. She mentioned it once and knows not to again.
She gave me my name, which is horrendous, so what does she know.

mumonherphone · 12/12/2022 11:30

It reminds me of the famous ballerina Darcey Bussel, lovely name. And I wouldn't allow your mum to use a different name.

TheBirdintheCave · 12/12/2022 11:41

It's a surname to me so I get where your mum is coming from in terms of not liking it BUT it's not up to her what you call your daughter.

My mum wanted to call me Ceri to reflect my dad's Welsh heritage but my grandma hated it so she called me something else.

gaf · 12/12/2022 12:28

I’m not a fan of the name personally especially with all the endless Darcie-Mays and Darcie-Rose’s around.

But it’s your choice, your mum doesn’t get a say. That’s why I never discussed names with anyone (apart from DH) as I didn’t want anyone else’s opinion.

KirstenBlest · 12/12/2022 15:29

I don't like Darcie/Darcy/Darcey, and the three spellings are on a steep downward trend, but it's your baby, and your mother got her chance to name babies when she had her own.

Gingersnappy · 13/12/2022 18:26

I think Darcie is a cute name--definitely not "bullying" or anything to avoid calling your granddaughter. DM is in the wrong and I'd tell her she can either call her by her given name, a cute nickname specific to her (NOT the middle name), or she doesn't have to be around

Luredbyapomegranate · 13/12/2022 21:40

You should do what you want but I do think it’s the Tracey of the 2020s

user1492757084 · 14/12/2022 10:10

Darcie is very sweet and much better than the spelling D'Arcy which is the only other girl I know with the name.
Your mother will learn to love the name as she will adore the child.

BabyYoZenZen · 14/12/2022 10:24

This is the time to start standing up for hour daughter and against your mum. You're an adult. You're the mum. You make the decision and she has no right whatsoever to bully you. The more she does, the more you keep her at arm's length, don't involved her much with baby. Just calmly keep reiterating 'This is my decision, I am not discussing it any further with you.'

BabyYoZenZen · 14/12/2022 10:24


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