Calling baby masculine form of my own name?

[Purpletopaz42]

So I have a name, which has a masculine and feminine form so for example Henry and Henrietta. Well my grandad was called Henry, I am named Henrietta after him but I'm pregnant with a boy and I'd like to call him Henry, after my grandad, who has since passed but I don't know if people will just think I've named the baby after myself or if it will get confusing, thoughts? Thank you

100% normal in Spain and other countries.

In fact, I am considered odd for not doing it.

Other countries do not change their maiden name and think this is odd.

You should do exactly as you wish, it is very narrow minded to think otherwise.

My brother has the masculine version of our mum's name. In actual fact he was named after an uncle on my dad's side, who'd died the year before he was born. I don't remember it being mentioned.

Look at Nigella Lawson and Dani Dyer, both having feminine versions of their dads names, though Nigella looks made up !

all the eldest sons have the same first name so since it’s passed down via the male name, and so is the surname, they all have exactly the same name

How confusing that must be Seems like some people forget the purpose of a name - to identify someone!

if I had been a boy, I’d have been given the masculine form of my mum’s name.

As it was, my paternal grandmother threw a fit that I wasn’t given her name (I have 4 older cousins, two girls).

If you’re worried about it sounding odd to people, Henry would make a
perfectly good middle name with most first names. And it’s a nice story to share about his middle name.

Yes, I think it’s quite ridiculous, about 25 Richard Kings* all running about the place. Half of them use the name Richard King in their own life but are known by their middle name in family, the other half just use their middle names. It’s still mad- R. Michael King, R. Simon King, etc- just giving it as a middle name would solve a lot of the palaver!

Would seem abit conceited to me

Nigella is a beautiful flower

Sounds fine and the poster who said lucy and luca etc I wouldn't even put them together particularly

@SummaLuvin but why would you give crap what someone else you are not close to thinks
Whatever baby name you choose someone will not like it , thats just life

@SummaLuvin I think you are a little too invested in what otters call their kids
For some nationalities etc its very normal to name kids after dad etc
And a female/ name version can be very different

I honestly think in real life most won't be bothered , mumsnet is like another universe at times and I bet a lot saying no its this its that , have had plenty talk about them about their choice if names for their children too

@toastofthetown but why if its a crap name individual or not, no guarantee your child will go thanks mum , really appreciate that
Where as named after someone loved etc has a lot of meaning
Like will and willow are not the same , the nickname could be but you avoid that
Whats worse is people actually being so judgy of others ,

It was actually very normal thing to do years ago in the uk for men and even some wormen
My auntie has the same name as my nan but was actually named after my nans aunt, as my nan never ever went by her full name and most people never even got the connection.

I don't why it seen as normal for guys to have a son with the same name as them but for a woman- who has carried and birthed them it's weird?

Go for it if you like it op

but why would you give crap what someone else you are not close to thinks

The op asked for people's honest opinions, so posters are giving theirs

Personally I find it narcissistic to do this, there are so many beautiful names to choose from

I don't why it seen as normal for guys to have a son with the same name as them

Normal? I find that pretty weird, unimaginative and narcissistic.

@Purplemagnolias i think narcissistic is going a bit far and a bit judgey as many nationalities do this , The OP is naming after her GF and honestly in real life I don't think anymore judgement than you get from any name.
If you think no one has commented behind your back on your kids names you would be wrong as names are a personal preference

Why do you care so much that people don’t like parents naming children after themselves? You’ve posted seven times in very rapid succession. The OP asked what I thought of it, and I replied that I think it’s weird, unimaginative or conceited. I think children should be given an identity which is separate to their parents. I assumed that the OP wanted a range of opinions on why people think, with the honesty that accompanies anonymity. And I don’t think anyone thinks any name has a guarantee their child will like it. As a parent you have to make a decision and hope that your child it agrees it’s a good one, but that’s the case whatever name you give them.

I’m really tickled by the idea of otter baby names threads 😁

I find it weird when men do it, and I find I’m reacting rhe same with a woman wanting to do it. I believe children should have their own name and identity . The child I assume will have your surname, for me, anything more is not ok. Worst case use Henry as a middle name, but give the kid their own identity

If you think no one has commented behind your back on your kids names you would be wrong as names are a personal preference

I would never ever think that . I fully expect many people with different (worse ) taste to dislike my children's names!

But I'm not coming to mumsnett specifically asking for their opinions! The op is.

My first name is a feminine version of my Dad's first name and I like being named after him.

I don’t see the issue, I think it’s fine.

I think it's great. Don't think anybody would bat an eyelid. I would just assume, correctly, that it was a family name.

I would just assume, correctly, that it was a family name.

As opposed to a non family name