My sister named her kids like my kids

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Hi new poster here. I have 3 children. 1 girl and two boys.

Our eldest "Jordan" was born in January. My brother's wife gave birth to a boy in November the same year and named him Jordan. At that point, we didn't care too much because ours was a girl and theirs was a boy.

Then, we had baby n°2 Samuel , he was born in July then in June the next year my brother had his 2nd son and named him Sam ( Not exactly the same, but still)

My husband was super pissed off, and struggled to accept it. But my family found it so cute, that I just went with it.

Last year in December we welcomed our third baby and son Theodore. Yes, you guessed it. My sister-in-law gave birth to a baby boy 2 weeks ago and named him Theo.

My husband refuses to visit my family now. I asked my parents, don't you find it fucking weird??? They said no. It's cute. My husband finds it creepy and so do I.

I travelled alone to see the baby, and once her and I were alone I lost my shit. I told her something like this

" You and your fucking husband need to find a personality and stop copying us. You are a sick b*tch, what do you want from me?"

Then she went on to say " Well there's nothing you can do".

Now I keep receiving texts from my parents telling me how horrible I am, how I should we should be flattered.
This whole situation makes me feel so uneasy. My nephews are named like my kids !!!

What do you think? Should I just be happy about it?

MolliciousIntent

I went to see my nephew, my brother's child. So no I didn't visit her.

Because my brother insist that it's his wife who wanted those names. Maybe he's lying. I cannot be sure.

But regardless I find it so creepy,it makes me uncomfortable.

She might be disturbed

You said in your OP that you went to visit her alone! If she's a sicko why would you do that?

I also said in my OP that I went to see the baby. My nephew. My brother's son. I wasn't alone there, my parents were there too. I didn't visit her, I visited my brother.

So your PIL have two sets of grandchildren with virtually the same names?

I'd love it if you had a DC4 and told SIL that you'd named it something really crazy like 'MollyWooWoo' and see if she copied that, while keeping the real name secret.

MolliciousIntent

So, if I follow your thinking, you think someone mentally stable would copy her/his family members' children names?

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads

Yes, and it is a shame because we had to alter the name

Jordan and Jojo
Sammy and Sam
And now?? I don't know Theo 1 and Theo 2?

No, I think if you think she's mentally unstable you shouldn't be going to visit her! Or taking your children to events where she will be!

You're right - it's not normal. You could call your Theodore Teddy?

You seem to not understand that I didn't visit her. I went to a family celebration for my BROTHER'S son.

I am not going to cut ties with my brother because of his crazy wife.

Well you absolutely should, if you think she's that unstable!

If this is real then yes it's very strange and a bit creepy.

But your brother is just as much to blame. Presumably he consented to it.

MolliciousIntent

Nope. I can't do that. But I sure will never have my children alone with her.

I think this is made up, if it isn't then you sound abit barmy aswell

This is fake. Has to be. No family is that dysfunctional

Surely this is just a wind up

I travelled alone to see the baby, and once her and I were alone I lost my shit

Now you’re saying it was a “family celebration to see the baby”?

It’s got to be. We’re being taken for a ride here.

I find it hard to believe Also that the rest of the family think it’s cute.

Also I don’t get why your brother isn’t equally responsible. Even if it’s her suggestions he still has a say.

His is fake! No way would they have the same gender children at the same time and choose identical names!!

Because my brother insist that it's his wife who wanted those names. Maybe he's lying. I cannot be sure.

Does it matter? He's 50% responsible for the babies' names, so he could have stopped it, or at least asked if you minded. I'd be worried that multiple people in your immediate family (1) consider this "cute" and (2) think that being cute is the most important thing and completely trumps anyone else's feelings.

But it sounds like your and your brother's children don't live close together and the last names are probably not the same. I'd try to ignore it (don't change your children's names or use short forms you don't like). Or pretend you're 18th century Scotland and everybody names their children after the grandparents - so every Jordan with a brother called Samuel also has at least one set of cousins called Jordan and Samuel.

Only solution really, have a 4th and call it something bizarre 😂

It's not worth falling out with your parents over, if you otherwise get along with them.

Can't you turn it into a joke, even if it's a passive aggressive joke?

Find a way to refer to their kids:
Otherjordan, Othersam, Othertheo
Jordantwo, Samtwo, Theotwo
Jordan the Second, Sam the Second, Theo the Second

So fucking weird….