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Raphael or Caleb?

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Yintan · 11/11/2022 15:10

Our DS is due soon and both DH and I really like Raphael (nn Raphy) but I am unsure whether it is 'too much'. I associate it with Italian/Spanish heritage and we have none of that at all. I also think of it as quite a middle class name, and we live in a very working class area.

The ninja turtle connection doesn't bother me. I don't think kids are as into the ninja turtles anymore and sharing a name with a cool turtle doesn't sound too bad really.

I love the name and feel quite attached to it, but when I imagine telling people the name, I imagine potentially some raised eyebrows.

Maybe I'm being overly cautious. It's our first child and I think I'm basing my ideas off of when I was in primary school and loads of us had the same names as each other (classes full of the top 20 names basically). I know having a unique name is more popular now, and compared to a lot of his classmates, his name probably wouldn't be that out there.

If not Raphael then my next favourite name is Caleb. I like the name and it feels a bit safer I suppose. I'm not in love with it in the same way but I can definitely imagine coming around to it.

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Yintan · 11/11/2022 15:13

Also, if anyone has a Raphael or a Caleb and wants to share any unexpected mispronunciations/nicknames/comments that they've received then that would be great too!

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babyjellyfish · 11/11/2022 15:21

I like Raphael. It was my top choice but my husband wasn't keen.

midsomermurderess · 11/11/2022 15:48

I like Raphael too. Gabriel has a similar feel.

Happyhappyeveryday · 11/11/2022 15:49


fastandthecurious1 · 11/11/2022 15:53

Love Raphael, use it you won't regret it. I named my son Emilio, milo for short and I have no strong links to Hispanic / Italian heritage but I just loved it and it suits him so well.
Only a handful of people have turned there nose up at it but yes it does always follow the with the question ' ohh where does THAT name come from' so be prepared for a lot of that lol

Rauha · 11/11/2022 15:55


ThreeKneeRepeater · 11/11/2022 15:56

Caleb always looks and sounds like a name written backwards.

toastofthetown · 11/11/2022 15:57

I much prefer Raphael and don’t find it too much at all, either too European or too middle class. Caleb is fine, but nowhere near as nice a name as Raphael to me. I think you’re overthinking a bit.

Luredbyapomegranate · 11/11/2022 16:29

There are loads of Raphaels, it’s v popular. So no worries on that score

Northtosouth · 11/11/2022 17:03

Raphael definitely. I know a 1 year old Raphael, his parents are both British and have no connection to Spain/Italy and it’s never been an issue at all. It would be on our list if they’d not used it already.

FayCarew · 11/11/2022 17:49

Caleb, without a doubt. nn Cal

PicturesOfDogs · 11/11/2022 17:52

I like Raphael better.

Petal7 · 11/11/2022 17:56

I much prefer Raphael

TabithaTittlemouse · 11/11/2022 17:58

They are so different imo!

Raphael is gorgeous! Go with your heart.

GlassDeli · 11/11/2022 18:10

I like Raphael

user1492757084 · 12/11/2022 08:42

Raphael is very handsome.
Go with it.

Yintan · 12/11/2022 19:21

Thank you all for your input! I'm definitely leaning more towards going with my instincts and picking Raphael.

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fairycupcakes · 12/11/2022 19:34

Raphael is lovely, if you love it go for it! Raphy is a lovely nn!

RandomUsernameHere · 12/11/2022 20:34

I love the name Raphael or Rafael.

pitterypattery00 · 12/11/2022 20:57

Both Raphael and Caleb are Hebrew (Old Testament) names. So I don't think you need to worry about not having Italian/Spanish heritage. I like both, much prefer Rafael spelling.

ViktoriaPlzen · 12/11/2022 21:52

Prefer Rafael spelling.
I wasn’t quite brave enough to use it, so I named the cat Rafael

Algor1thm · 12/11/2022 22:08

I love Raphael! I've only met one (adult) and he went by Raph. Gorgeous name, lovely and underused but not made up or crazy.

Caleb in contrast is very overdone - I lump it in with all the Kaydens, Kaylems, Callums.

ShowOfHands · 12/11/2022 22:10

I have an 11yr old Raphael who is called Raphy or Rapha or Raffles or RifRaf. Never had a negative comment or mispronunciation. Also only met one other in 11 years.

His friends aaaallll know the ninja turtles though. This only makes his name cooler apparently.

onmyway2010 · 12/11/2022 22:44

We have a Rafael who is almost 7. I love his name and we’ve had lots of compliments on it. He got Rafi when little and now gets mostly Raf. We decided to go with Rafael over Raphael because I was worried the Raph shortening would look like Ralph.

LittleMrsMama · 12/11/2022 22:55

Raphael :)

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