Baby name regret/worry

[Ffrenchfan]

i have a baby girl called Violet who is 2 months old. My DH really loved the name from the start but I had some issues pronouncing it correctly (I kept pronouncing it as ‘vile it’ rather than ‘vye Uh let’ due to my accent) which I worked on during the pregnancy and agreed to go ahead with the name.

I love it when I look at the spelling and everyone has been very positive about it but I do find that when I’m introducing her or saying her name I am super careful about how I pronounce it so I’m not saying ‘vile it’. My head also gets confused as to whether I should say ‘vye oh let’ or ‘vye uh let’ and which one is correct. I’ve now started worrying about her coming home from secondary school and saying people are calling her ‘vile’ or ‘violent’ etc and how it’ll be all our fault for giving her the name.

I don’t know if I’m just over reacting. The rational part of my brain is saying it’s a totally normal nice name, the irrational part is saying what if she hates it and is bullied and we gave it to her and should we just have gone with something like Olivia.

It’s a nice normal name. For what it’s worth I pronounce it with two syllables too. That’s just my accent. I don’t say vi oh let, I say vy-let.

It's a normal, beautiful name. Absolutely gorgeous. Right now you're massively overthinking it, so what if you say it differently sometimes?

I also say Vy-let, two syllables. My husband says it with two and a half syllables - similar to me but with a slight uh in the middle. Really not emphasised.

It's a well known name, I do think you're over thinking it. If you said Vile-it to me I wouldn't notice, I'd just think "Violet, how nice".

Vy-let

Its fine

I wouldn't worry about Vile/Violent, those are stretches, and regardless if kids want to pick on other children they will find a way to do so no matter the name.

Just consider how people in your region will pronounce it and if their pronunciation will bother you. I pronounce it as Vy-Let it and so would everyone else where I come from, and no amount of corrections or the parent saying Vy-Uh-Let would change that. I knew an Emily whose parents hated that the 'I' in the middle got dropped so she was Emm-Lee, but if it's the regional accent nothing can be done.

I think you are making something of nothing. No one will have an issue with pronunciation or bully.

Violet is a lovely and normal name, I think you are over thinking. I do the same with my dc names sometimes. Then I realize that most names could have a mean nickname made from their name if someone really wanted to.

I also pronounce it with 2 syllables Vy-let

I would say vy-'let. No O at all ! It's a lovely name though try and not overthink it.

I say vy o let. I like it.

It's more than nice and normal, it's a really beautiful name. And happily it has so many positive associations (the flower, the colour, the scent) that any association with 'vile' or 'violent' (seriously, I'd never even clocked this before) will be way, way down the list however you pronounce it.

I think your feelings are coming from pronouncing the name in a way that is unnatural to you. It’s fine to pronounce it vy-let and nothing to do with ‘vile’.
You could call her Vi or Lettie if it comes easier to you.
Soon she will know her name and you won’t be able to change it so definitely this is the time to think about it.

This is how most people say it

It’s a very popular name and no one will think anything of it

It is pronounced Vi’let, though, traditionally- two syllables. It’s not vi-o-let. It’s a well known name. I admit, I do think vile, but that’s just me. Plenty of other people love it.

I think you're overthinking. It's a lovely name and lots of people will pronounce it as you do. Secondary school students are not as awful as most MNetters would have you believe. I know grown adults who say they always think of "gay" when they see the name Gabriel for example - my teenagers are at school with lots of Gabriels and don't bat an eyelid. Violet is a really normal name and she's unlikely to be the only one she knows as well.
When one of my children was a baby his name was just way too big a name and I got cold feet. We naturally started using a pet name for him and now he's 18 and we still use the pet name even though he's clearly grown into his name and everyone else uses it. Is there a pet name you naturally use for her??

You're overthinking it. It's a lovely name and will be fine. Teenagers at secondary are much more likely to shorten names so they may call her Vi or Lettie. Unlikely to call her Violent!
I say Vy-oh-let but either pronunciation sounds fine

You are overthinking it.

I say vi-lut

I say vye oh let. 3 syllables. Like Violin.

I like it. I also like Violetta.

You're overthinking. This may sound extreme but had you looked into PND?
unless you have another name you're really set on, i don't think you should change it, it's a beautiful name

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. It just doesn’t come naturally to me: vy - let us alot easier so maybe I’ll just go with that. I do love the name and don’t want to change it I just worry about how I can barely say it correctly myself and I’m her mum!! Thanks everyone for your kind replies.

I think it's a gorgeous name. Can you say Vi-let rather than Vile-let?

You and your DH can change her name if you want to! My friend did this when her child was a baby. I liked the name Lily when picking names but glad I didn’t pick it as I can’t say the Ls comfortably! Don’t be put off correcting something you believe to be a mistake due to perceived social pressure or what family and friends will think; do what’s best for you and your family.

Such a beautiful name!

When I hear Violet my first though is the character in the incredible song - who I’m sure you’re daughter will love too!

Its such a gorgeous name, don't over think it. My beautiful little niece is Violet and we tend to all pronounce Vi-a-let less emphasis on the o more a softer ah sound.

I say Vy oh let.

I prefer three syllables to Vile let.

Change it.

Violet is too similar to "vile" and "violent".