Can people with older kids help me with this middle name q?

[purplejungle]

Our first son has two middle names, both family names to honour people who died whilst I was pregnant. I'm pregnant again with another boy and not fussed necessarily about this one also having two middle names. But is this the sort of things kids care about when they get older?! Should they both have two middle names to be fair?! Thanks!

For some reason both me and my brother (oldest and youngest) have a middle name and my sister doesn't.

I don't think we ever knew why and it certainly doesn't seem to have been an issue. Unless my sister has kept quiet about it (unlikely knowing her!).

We only use first names in life anyway.

I have a middle name, as does my brother. My sister doesn't and she was so jealous as a child she made one up!

My three sibling all have middle names...I don't have any. I'm the oldest, and even now, in my 50s, this still bothers me a bit 🤣

As a child, I used to truly believe that it was because my parents hadn't wanted me...now I know that it was because they 'became' (🤣🤣🤣🤣) more 'middle-class-striving' after they had me, as my dad got a promotion, so thought they'd better 'be posher' and give their children middle names. Which is kind of funny, as I'm the only one out of the four of us to have gone on to any sort of 'middle class' life as the assistant head teacher in a large primary school (I don't think of myself in that way, but my parents definitely did when I went to uni, my youngest brother went on to deal drugs, my other brother ended up in jail and my sister married the local 'bad boy' and moved into a council house...my mum never really recovered from that 🤣) She was a bit Hyacinth Bouquet, my mum 😍

So yeah...give all your children the same number of names...just in case they have overactive imaginations, like I did 🤦‍♀️🤣

ds and dd1 both have one middle name
dd2 has 2.

the reason is that ds and dd1 both had a family name from each side. (sort of) so first name and then middle name both link to family.

but dd2s first name is not connected to the family, so she has two middle names - one from each side.

None of them have ever been in the slightest bit bothered, although the fact that there is a logical explanation probably helps.
They are all older teens now.

In fact now that I think about it, I have one middle name and my brothers both have two.
I've never really noticed.

Again, middle names linked to family, and my middle name is pretty special to me as it is my mum's and her mum's and I gave it to dd1.

so rather than the number of names being an issue, I think the fact that the older ones have 'special' names for people who died and the youngest doesn't have a 'special' family name would niggle me more.

Both of our sons have two middle names only because we couldn’t agree on one either time so had one each of our choices, both times.
I see your point but middle names are just never used so it’s a non issue. Nobody outside our immediate family knows our sons’ middle names

I have a middle name, my younger sister doesn't. It does bother her, slightly. I don't think she loses sleep over it though.

But yes, I would give all DC the same number of middle names.

I come from a big family and we all have the same number of middle names. We definitely would have teased each other if it had been different, but we teased each other mercilessly. It was mostly good natured.

DH and BIL both have two middle names. SIL only has one. Even as an adult woman of almost 40 years old she still mentions the unfairness/sexism in her parents decision not to give her a second middle name.

My two brothers have middle names. I don't. It has always irritated me. Why the difference? DM said she didn't think a middle name was necessary for a girl. 😱

One of my grandmothers didn’t have a middle name whilst all her younger siblings did, it mildly irritated her until her dying day. I think disliking her given name didn’t help matters.

I’m sure as long as you give him at least one middle name, it’ll be fine!

My sister has two (the youngest) I have one (oldest). No-one gives a shit. Apart from her when it doesn’t fit in the little boxes they give you on forms to add your name.

I would give them all the same number, and try and find something meaningful if you haven't used up all the "special" names!
My DD has 2 middle names, one is a family name from DHs family, and the other is my surname (I didn't change my name).

The youngest one is luckier imo. I wouldn't want to be named after someone else. My older sister has 3 middle names and they're all dead relatives. I like being my own person with my unusual names.

One of my siblings has two middle names. The rest of us couldn’t care less.

Ds one has two middle names due to a family argument ds two just has one

My dad doesnt have one because his twin had it his older brother USES his middle name instead of his first name as he hates it so much my mom and her sisters never had one her parents did though 😂

I have no middle name and was a little jealous of my brothers as it's seemed more refined to have one, but now don't give a toss

My sibling has one, I have zero! Never been an issue.

Just to add there isn't really any angst over the middle name thing with my children because I made it clear ds only had extra to stop the arguing with my family

I have 2 and my siblings only have one. I’m jealous of them because I hate having 2 and my 2 are awful as well

I had one middle name and my (younger) brother had one plus our mum's maiden name. It rankled sufficiently that when I was baptised as a teenager, I added in mum's maiden name, so now we match.

My eldest has two middle names, the other 5 don’t have any. None of them have ever questioned or cared about it. I suspect it would only have been an issue if they absolutely ran out of anything else to argue about. That never happened!

I was incredibly indignant about this as a toddler, and complained to my mum that my baby brother had two middle names. She said, "He doesn't - what do you mean?" and I replied, "Yes he does: Alex. Ander."

If he really did have two middle names, I'm sure I would've got over it eventually!

I don't have a middle name but all my brothers have at least one. I was a bit upset when I was little (generally because I never did well at the 'Letters in your Name' game)! My children have two middle names each.

I can still remember feeling a bit upset as a child that my sibling got two middle names when I was given only one.

Needless to say, my children have the same number of names.