Baby name regret - one parent only

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So I am suffering from PND so this is a contributing factor, but I keep obsessing over my baby's name. I feel as though the one we picked isn't 'him' for different reasons and like I've just gone off it. He's 6 months. I started feeling this way around 2 months ago and it hasn't gone away.
I have been in tears daily over this and it's all I think about from waking up to going to sleep! I have had trouble sleeping and little appetite.
I would change the name in a heartbeat but my partner loves his name. He has said I can change it, but I feel so much guilt (the name I want I've loved for years and we didn't go with it in the first place because DH didn't like it!). He didn't come up with any names. I thought of the one baby has at the minute. I feel as though we only chose it as it's the only one he said yes to.
What would you do? I don't know if I'll ever love this name for him and i feel regret I didn't use the one I had wanted for years.

Hi! I would agree completely that those of us on here have an above average interest in names and therefore not to do place too much merit on how it’s received here- most people I think just accept a child’s name and move on unless it’s highly unusual.

if you feel so strongly that it’s keeping you awake at night then I would change it. If the only reason you’re not doing is the fear of how people will respond, don’t let that stop you. Just deliver a simple message with confidence saying “it’s n reflection he just isn’t an XXX and his new (permanent!) name is XXX

but, I would say that I’m a firm believer that names are defined by the person and not vice versa. One of my DDs middle names is Skye and is never received well on here/I know some people hold negative connotations for it but truly I find it lovely and unexpected on her.

I think what I’m saying is try and quieten the noise and follow your own heart- what would you do if you free of the anxiety about anyone else’s reactions. Do that x

Lots of typos there but you get my gist

Also thought this was more recent, sorry!

Can you just start calling him the name you wanted to see how it feels? It may not feel right either or you will be even more certain about it.

I wouldn't rush into changing it officially - take your time.

And also, I think a lot of us are not 100 percent sure at the beginning about a newborn's name. It's often a compromise for one of the two parents. However, we grow to love those names that we put on the certificates with time as they become synonymous to the little babies we love.

Hi @Whatshallwecallher, I’ve literally just gone through the same process with my little one and so glad I’ve read your comments on here and another thread. It really does help. The only regret I now have is the birth certificate has the original name on it. Does this bother you at all or has it got easier with time?

Change one of the second names to your favourite name.
Call your child that name for a while. If you both like it you can continue, if not - the name is listed anyway.