One parent using DC's middle name?

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If one parent prefers the middle name is it OK for that parent to use the middle name or will it cause too much confusion for the child for the parents to use different names?

So if child is called Amy May Surname you are asking if mum can call her Amy and Dad can call her May for example?

Absolutely not - so weird

No that's stupid. Pick a name you both like and call her that.

I was in this position, and we both call her by her first name. I felt it was too confusing.

How will that work when the child goes to nursery and school? Which name will they be known as to other people?
I think it will be too confusing for both the child and other people

Do you mean that one parent will call them Mary Alice, and the other they Mary? That sounds fines.

One calling them Mary and the other Alice is bananas.

I knew someone that was known by Ruth by people that knew her dad but Sarah if they knew her mum

My Dad used to call me by my middle name.
I remember it fondly.
To me, it was the same as everyone outside the home calling you 'Jane' as per birth certificate, but you dad calling you "Poppet" or "JJ" or your Mum calling you "My little sausage face" or "Stinky" or any other nickname.
DC are perfectly capable of grasping that is a nickname just for in the home.

DF called DSis by a diminutive of her middle name. No-one was confused.

I call my daughter sausage, but that's nowhere to be found on her birth certificate. She is not confused either.

It's all good.

Same here with my dad/sister. If we’re talking about her, he will refer to here as that middle name diminutive, I’ll refer to her as her actual name, and we do the same when we’re with her. It’s never caused any confusion.

With one of our kids we each have preferred nicknames (not planned, it just happened that way)

Ok if used the same way as a nickname within the family, but the parents need to consistently use one name with teachers, doctors etc.

Nicknames are fine obviously but if it's essentially a battle between the parents that's a different situation and the child will pick up on that. It's not ok - there needs to be agreement on their name at a basic level.