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Worth doing the Starbucks test!
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SupetArt · 05/05/2022 12:36

I know there used to be something about going to Starbucks and giving your prospective baby’s name so that it got called out when your drink was ready and you could gauge reaction.

I’ve tried it a few times at various places recently with a name that mumsnet posters were quite rude about but in the real world people spontaneously said oh wow you have a lovely name and young people seemed to be really positive about it Also despite what people on mumsnet said nobody had any issue with spelling it or pronouncing it. I think it’s worth doing.

in our case it’s meant we are now 100% happy with our choice of - Xanthe !

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thisplaceisweird · 05/05/2022 12:37

It's lovely!!

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pinklavenders · 05/05/2022 15:39

I'm not sure the (often from abroad) employees at a coffee shop are necessarily good judges of names I like...

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RandomQuest · 05/05/2022 15:46

Judging from the daily dramas at the Starbucks in the lobby of my office building, the most problematic name in an American Starbucks is Caitlyn. At least Xanthe will know which drink is hers! And also it’s a great name.

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pinklavenders · 05/05/2022 15:50

I guess a super common name can be a problem - there'll be several of them waiting for their drink!

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WonderingStepmum · 05/05/2022 16:07

I namechanged just to post this. Xanthe is my name. Don't name your child that. I've wanted to change my name as long as I can remember but it's too much a part of my identity now.

It may not sound like a big deal, but having to spell out your name, multiple times, to anyone you speak to, in real life or over the phone, gets tiring and frustrating. The constant mispronunciations I get are frustrating at best.

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urrrgh46 · 05/05/2022 16:10

Well my Xanthe (age 21) is happy with her name. Although when she wants an easy life she uses her middle name that's more common.

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urrrgh46 · 05/05/2022 16:10

I also have a name and a surname that's easily mispronounced and misspelt - never bother me...it's a talking point.

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HumunaHey · 05/05/2022 16:16

WonderingStepmum

I namechanged just to post this. Xanthe is my name. Don't name your child that. I've wanted to change my name as long as I can remember but it's too much a part of my identity now.

It may not sound like a big deal, but having to spell out your name, multiple times, to anyone you speak to, in real life or over the phone, gets tiring and frustrating. The constant mispronunciations I get are frustrating at best.

I guess it depends where you live. It's become quite a common name where I am and I would be familiar with how to spell that name if someone said it to me.

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BertieBotts · 05/05/2022 16:22

Why would a coffee shop employee being from abroad mean that you shouldn't trust their opinion?Confused

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StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 05/05/2022 16:22

It's a good idea, OP, testing your name out there in the wild. Glad it's given you confidence in your name choice.

On a related note, I love when people post their Starbucks name fails

https://www.buzzfeed.com/jonmichaelpoff/starbucks-name-fails

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veronicagoldberg · 05/05/2022 16:24

Xanthe sounds like chewing gum.

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calmlakes · 05/05/2022 16:30

I'm not sure I would base my name choice on the responses of coffee house employees.
These would frequently be be people too young to have the responsibility of naming a child.
But you think it is good name then go for it.

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yourestandingonmyneck · 05/05/2022 16:36

God I hate the whole "Starbucks name on cup" thing. Just seems to silly and affected to me. I go to just about any other coffee shop and they manage to make me a coffee without asking my name and writing it on a cup.

If this is the barometer you want to use for choosing your child's name, that's up to you. And I'm pleased you've got the result you wanted.

Just remember that when people comment on an unusual name in situations like that, it is often just an exclamation. They want to comment/ask, and so they feel they have to be complimentary. I wouldn't always take it as a genuine compliment.

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yourestandingonmyneck · 05/05/2022 16:37

*so silly and affected. (Not "to")

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hepaticanobilis · 05/05/2022 16:41

BertieBotts

Why would a coffee shop employee being from abroad mean that you shouldn't trust their opinion?Confused

I'm from abroad and have one of those "international" names that is used in many countries. I assume PP mentioned this because names are pronounced very differently in different accents and even different countries - my name sounds very different depending on whether the person saying it is from Australia, Italy or Sweden.

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anywhichwaytoo · 05/05/2022 18:57

More than one person said "wow you have a lovely name" Hmm and several young people were equally as enthusiastic? Over how long of a time period have you tried this for?

I've been to plenty of Starbucks' and no one has ever commented on my name or anyone else's that been called aloud.

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pinklavenders · 05/05/2022 19:31

I've been to plenty of Starbucks' and no one has ever commented on my name or anyone else's that been called aloud.

Me neither. And they certainly wouldn't say "wow, what a horrible name?!"

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feellikeanalien · 05/05/2022 19:39

Slightly off topic but DD insists on me giving random names if we go to Starbucks, usually to do with her favourite TV series at the time.

So far I've had Penny and Edie.😀

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SupetArt · 05/05/2022 20:06

Sorry I should have made it clearer. Although it’s known as the Starbucks thing I didn’t go to Starbucks: I’ve been trying it out in other scenarios and across different age ranges.

Having said that, the racism/xenophobia on here is quite something.

i have a fairly common name myself that is constantly misheard as another common name so I don’t think it’s any guarentee.

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elfran · 05/05/2022 20:47

OP I think it's great you'd had a good response, and I certainly don't think Xanthe is as out there as some pp seem to! It's lovely, congratulations.

I had a similar experience today, I was interviewing for a new job, the woman asked my baby's name. When I told her she literally squealed in delight! 😆

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Luredbyapomegranate · 05/05/2022 23:48

I like it, although I like Ianthe even better (bit more grown up)

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Talipesmum · 05/05/2022 23:51

Nice idea! Incidentally I slightly knew a girl called Xanthe when I was little and I was always in awe of her name - it just seemed awesome. It has an X in it which is always great, and is cool Greek sounding. Excellent name!

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toastedcat · 06/05/2022 00:13

I like the name Xanthe, and if it helps I'd also know how to spell it!

Having said that, someone above said something interesting about positive reactions being an exclamation -- I am definitely guilty of doing that. Like if someone I barely know is wearing an outrageous jumper, I'd probably say ooh I like your jumper. Even if it was horrific. It's like you can't NOT mention it...

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TheWayoftheLeaf · 06/05/2022 11:11

My name is one of the most common in the world. Starbucks still spell it wrong every single time

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Crunchymum · 06/05/2022 13:53

SupetArt

Sorry I should have made it clearer. Although it’s known as the Starbucks thing I didn’t go to Starbucks: I’ve been trying it out in other scenarios and across different age ranges.

Having said that, the racism/xenophobia on here is quite something.

i have a fairly common name myself that is constantly misheard as another common name so I don’t think it’s any guarentee.

You have a lot of time on your hands, sounds like you are halfway to a new identity Grin


In the nicest possibly way, own your choice. Don't worry about the validation of others.

FWIW it's a lovely name.

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