Did you go off names you liked for your first baby?

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I'm (just) pregnant with our 2nd child and it's far too early to battle over names but both dh and I have admitted to going off the names we liked for our first.
Is this usual? It feels like giving a secondhand name somehow.
Did you stick with names you liked for first or start again?

Yeah we did. Started a completely new list with names I hadn't even considered the first time. Strange how two years can affect your likes/dislikes!

Funnily enough, we came back round to one of our unused names for the first right at the end of the second pregnancy. But then baby was born a girl again so didn't get to use it (we didn't find out the sex either time making name choosing even harder!)

I liked William for my first born (he’ll be 15 in July) but wanted to use the middle name Robert after my dad. Living in the rural US, I was worried people would call him Billy Bob 🤣 So he was Samuel Robert instead.

His little brother, William Oliver, was born almost 8 years later. So that one I kept, but the others I went off of a bit. I remember liking Julia of my oldest was a girl, but never thought of it again even though I did have a girl eventually.

Yes, completely discounted the girls name I had for ds when I had a dd 4 years later. It didn't seem right when I'd picked them for a different baby, she deserved her own unique list. I realise was silly, but I felt what I what.

A mixture. Some names stayed on the list, like Adelaide. Some were added after growing on me in the interim, like Petra. Some were crossed off with a "what was I thinking?!", like Angelo (no offence to Angelos, but we're not Italian so I think would seem weird)

Two weeks away from due date with our second and not using any of the names we had picked out for our first! I think we spoke about them so much before that it didn't feel right! Gone completely different for this baby 😅

New set of name for all 4

DS 1 - right up until birth we hesitated between 2 names

DS2 - the name NOT chosen for DS1 was not even on our list. We had both gone right off it

There were some (but not all) other names which were on both lists - put there by DH cos from the day I tested positive I knew the boys name I wanted for DS2. It just took the whole pregnancy to convince DH (it worked and DH now adores the name)

Oh yes, absolutely.

Our "first" was twin sons. They were nameless for two days, while we decided between three names. The name we didn't choose was Ezra, and by the time I had DS3, DH and I had both gone right off it.

It's a different story with our two DDs. With DD1, it took us three days to decide between two names. Throughout my pregnancy with our 9-day old DD2, the name we didn't choose for DD1 wasn't even on our list. We hadn't gone off it, there were simply other names we had since grown to love more, or at least we thought we did. However when she was born, and I can offer no rational explanation as to why, we both instantly felt like that very name was the right name for her. And it really is. I took a last look at our list, before deleting it from my phone notes, and I have no regrets about not using any of them.

Completely new set of names every time.

Yep we were sold on Maggie for a girl for our first. He was a boy. I'm pregnant again. Not sure if girl or boy yet but I don't like Maggie at all ha!

I chose a lovely Irish name in line with her extensive heritage for my DD when she was born. I tried it for several days and it just didn't work. So it was changed to the second on the list and that suited her very well.

Yep. For DD we changed her middle name last minute as we thought we'd like to "save" her original middle name for a future daughter. I'm now 36 weeks pregnant with DD2 and neither of us remotely want that middle name as a first name.

Annoyingly we quite like middle name DD has, but now we can't use it 🙄

Yes I did. Naming DC3 was a nightmare because by that point everyone around us had had kids and we didnt like our old lists anymore, and any name we came up with was too like some other kid in the family 😁

You could! I knew 2 sisters who were for example, Grace Isabelle and Isobel May. I did think it was unusual at first but quite a nice link really that they both have a name you love so much!

Yes and no. Some names triggered a "WTF was I thinking?", others were now associated with someone. Yet the names we gave our last dc were on our shortlists for every dc.

I am in the same position as you. We have a DS but the names we had for a girl I don't like any of anymore. Some of the shortlist we had for DS I still like, but I don't think they sound good with DS's name so will probably discount them.
I think it's nice to start afresh!

I'm pregnant with second and we don't like same names as with first one either.

DC1 was a boy but had he been a girl he'd have been Charlotte. We went on to have two DD and Charlotte wasn't on our list for either.

I went off the first name we'd chosen for a boy when DD was born, but the middle name stayed the same (my maternal granddad's name). Took lots of scouring the ONS full names spreadsheet to find a replacement (and we did have a boy as our second, so I'm glad we thought carefully about it).

Yes and no. I liked Callan for my first, but OH hated it and my middle is now named Callan as he decided he liked it. But I also liked Isaac and Teddy and went off them. I liked Blake and Jesse for my middle and my youngest’s middle name is Jesse, but went off of Blake.

We had boy and girl names picked out for our first DD but then with DS it didn’t feel right using the names we’d picked out before; we’d gone off them and it felt odd so we used a different name

I was pregnant 2 years ago with my DD and we didn't know the sex. We were stuck between 2 names for a girl and only had one name for a boy that we really liked. Now I don't like the other girl name or our top boy name more because it feels like its a hand me down to my next child as silly as that may seem.

Also since having my dd I guess I'm more aware of what children are called around me so that put me off slightly as well.

We have a completely new list this time round and in fact have loads of boys names we love but struggling with girls as we love our DD name so much nothing seems to compare!

I no longer like the name that we would have called DD if she'd been a boy, so you're certainly not alone. Partly that might be because it doesn't go with DD's name though.

I haven't gone off the names I actually called them as I couldn't imagine them being anything else now, but I did go off the runner-up names on my shortlist.
I think it is because times have moved on though and they are now seen as dated whereas when I had my first baby 20 years ago they were in the top 10.