Disagreeing with my DH over baby names

[Jolene1990]

My DH wants our future son to be called Eddie, I would want nothing less and would rather he is called anything else, can you mums help me with suggestions?

What does Eddie/Ed sound like with your surname?

e.g. Ed Stone sounds silly

You could agree with him but add that only if Eddie is short for Ethelred or some other name you think he might not like

Do you like Edward?
Point out to him that Teddy, Eddie, Freddie etc are all very popular atm and he may be one of several in his year group. Tell him that you want a more substantial name that isn't so cutesy.

What names do you like? Put your foot down. Tell him you don't like Eddie and he won't be given that name full stop. Find a name you both like and ask him to imagine how he'd feel if you were insisting baby be called a name be doesn't like.

This doesn't seem a name issue as much as it is a relationship one. Name are a two yes, one no situation, and you both might have do some compromising. No parent gets to unilaterally decide their baby's name, especially against the wishes of the other parent.

You both have to agree. You also both have to suggest multiple names i.e. he doesn't get to just say Eddie and nothing else whilst you give him a list of 20 names.

Ideally you find something you both love. If not, something you both like and hopefully don't have to go to something you both don't mind or don't hate!

Each parent should have veto power. It’s a good idea to write an independent list of suggestions and then swap to see if any might be acceptable?

Well it doesn’t really matter if he wants it because you both have to agree and if you don’t like it you can’t use it. Has he got no other suggestions? What names do you like?

If you don't like it, you don't like it. Personally, I don't like Eddie, and I don't think the current trend for diminutives as actual names will age well. I can see it being a Barry/Gary kind of name in the future. If my husband was pushing Eddie, I would shut that idea down quickly. Or tell him that I would consider it as a middle name but not as a first name.

What names do you like? I would suggest you both create a list of your favourite names then have a discussion. Or use an app like Kinder to get ideas.

@KirstenBlest

What does Eddie/Ed sound like with your surname?

e.g. Ed Stone sounds silly

You could agree with him but add that only if Eddie is short for Ethelred or some other name you think he might not like

Oh my goodness I went to school with a boy with this exact name!

Would Edward/Edmund/Edwin/Edgar work as a compromise?

What names do you like?

Sounds like an odd way to decide a name. DH and I each drew up a list. We had a couple we were both fine with and then we waited to see what the baby looked like and how we felt. Your DH doesn't get to choose one name and refuse to compromise.