Favourite name associated with someone annoying

[Tidlo]

Can you ever get over this?

There's a lovely name I like and was so close to picking it, and then I remembered it was also the name of a friend of an ex who I found really annoying. And now I just keep thinking about it and this lovely name is now associated with a middle aged woman who would get too drunk, shake and ramble.

It's hard to find names that you haven't already met someone with and formed an impression of. Is this something you can just get over and a few months in the name becomes associated with your child?

Lucy. I've always loved it. Then I had a few months dealing with the most appalling, vicious bully called Lucy. I dreaded seeing her every day.

Weirdly it hasn't spoilt the name Lucy for me. Possibly because bitch-Lucy had a really ridiculous surname as well, so I associate that with her instead.

I know what you mean but I think you should use it because you’re not seeing that person any more. If she was still in your life, I’d give it a swerve.

Yup, I can completely relate to that!! Must be so hard to teachers/ people that deal with 100s of names

@VanillaSpiceCandle

I know what you mean but I think you should use it because you’re not seeing that person any more. If she was still in your life, I’d give it a swerve.

That's a very good point!

I was a teacher. So many names I could never use now that I loved before teaching!

I think I could get over it unless the person had really adversely affected my life for a significant period of time. Like the name of my bitch ex-MIL.

I married someone whose name I associated with a mean person. It’s something you can get past

David was on my mind before being pregnant. But my best friend and I went to school with one. He's one of the biggest narcissists I've ever come across. Now a wannabe musician (no success though). Really put me off. Probably also cuz it's the only David I really crossed path with.

My parents are both teachers and deliberately used names for their own kids that were unusual and they hadn’t taught any. So a common problem for teachers I expect!

Someone I used to work with ruined a lovely name for me. But they were so awful (both at the job and as a person) I could never use the name now. I think the fact that it’s an unusual name makes it worse because I don’t know anyone else with the same name to dilute the awful person. Whereas an awful “Sarah” for example would be diluted by many lovely Sarah’s I’ve also known.