Name was decided now with a few days to go I'm backtracking

[wingingit33]

Maybe I'm just wobbling but we had a set name, Joshua since 24 weeks. I'm now a few days off my planned section and I'm going off it. I loved and still love my daughters' names, I don't love this. In fact I don't love any boys names. Husband and kids really want to stick with it, saying that's his name now. Wwyd?

See what he looks like!

Well it’s NOT his name yet, you’re the one carrying and birthing him so you get a say. Maybe just stop thinking about it and wait and see what he looks like and how you feel when he comes out. But don’t be pushed around because that what they want to call a being they haven’t even met yet.

I never loved any boys names and I have 3 of them , he will grow into his name I'm sure . You do like Josh thou don't you ? As he will very rarely be called Joshua

I'd say wait until he's born. Try it out on him for a few days and see if it feels right. Congratulations x

We had a name picked for our boy. The night before my c-section I went off it, possibly bound up in anxieties about the op. When he popped out, the name just didn't feel right. It took 6 weeks - right up to the end of time allowed for registation of his name - to pick another. The original choice became an extra middle name - you could do this to pacify your husband and kids? My son is very happy with his name and so are we. Wait until he's born and then figure it out. Congratulations!

It's important that both parents like the name - it can be impossible to find a name both love equally and there is often compromise, but both parents should like it and be happy with it as a bare minimum. If you are no longer happy with it, then discussions are needed, between the adults not the kids!

At this point I would be quite firm that I feel really unsure and am not committed to the name, but I also would avoid pressure to come up with an alternative so close to the section. See how you feel and what the baby looks like once he is here, you might warm to Joshua again. If not you have time to figure it out.

I wouldn't worry about this now.

Wait until baby is here. He might really suit Joshua and all is ok. Or he might not and you and DH come up with another name.

I was scared the name I'd chosen was wrong for my boy. Couldn't imagine him being any other name now.

I always used to say it's silly to 'see what they look like' because babies just look like babies. I had a name pretty much decided for my first son and sure enough, he looked like a baby and we gave him that name.

But my second son... We had a name chosen, like before, but when he was born I knew it was the wrong name! Didn't suit him at all. My husband agreed it was wrong, and came up with a brand new one that wasn't even on our radar before - and it's perfect.

So... wait and see :) Your husband might change his mind too. And you can always give him Joshua as a middle name to appease your other children!

I tried to stick to the name we'd chosen but I was miserable and stressed. Ended up changing it at 8 weeks! If you can't live with it, that's not going to change

Do you have a couple of alternatives? I’d start thinking just in case. And warm your husband up to the idea of maybe a different name.

You need to go back to the drawing board and find a name you and your husband both like.

If you don't love any boys names then just go with the most liked option. Spend some time on name sites and see if anything piques your fancy.

We had a couple of names we liked but when DS arrived I looked at him and a name we had never considered just popped in my head. We discussed it and when he was almost a week old decided on it. He didn't get a middle name for a few months! (registered late because of covid) There's no hurry, don't worry about it yet.

We were the same with DS, had a name picked out, but when he arrived it didn't suit him at all and we went with a name that wasn't even on any of our shortlists. My advice would be to shelve it until he is born and see how you feel then.

My advice is change it if you don’t like it . My husband didn’t engage in much (in my opinion exciting) name chat, just sort of decided upon a name that we agreed on and wouldn’t budge from it. As times gone on I’ve found I’m the one with name regret and he wouldn’t really have been too bothered what they are called! Change it if you aren’t sure

@Oli5

My advice is change it if you don’t like it . My husband didn’t engage in much (in my opinion exciting) name chat, just sort of decided upon a name that we agreed on and wouldn’t budge from it. As times gone on I’ve found I’m the one with name regret and he wouldn’t really have been too bothered what they are called! Change it if you aren’t sure

She hasn’t had the baby yet

I know- it seems like the name is decided before birth though I understood? And I was saying that’s what happened In my case

@SheWoreYellow

I know- it seems like the name is decided before birth though I understood? And I was saying that’s what happened In my case

Oh fine, it’s just the way you worded it as ‘change it’, it sounded like changing a baby’s name not changing your mind!

Dh and I both went off the boys names we had for ds whe I was around 30 weeks (I went off one he off the other) ds got named a 3rd name we both love that had not even been discussed at 30 weeks

I know people that took weeks to decide on their baby's name. Don't feel bounced into a decision. Just say you haven't decided yet if people ask.

Are there any other names you like?