Getting frustrated by name discussions

[RosieLemonade]

I've had so many threads so I apologise. I just can't find many boys names I like at all. DH is actually starting to piss me off with his lack of sensible suggestion (Gary, Keith etc) but is more than happy to say no to everything I suggest. It's starting to get me down now and I feel it's stopping me connecting with the baby.

What do you like?

if discussions are getting you nowhere then could you try independently coming up with lists and seeing if anything matches. There is a name app called Kinder which works like Tinder where you swipe through baby names and it tells you if you've matched on any names. Otherwise maybe independently look at the top 100/200/500 names and note down all the ones you each like and again see if there's any overlap.

We were like this with girls names During both pregnancies, so stopped discussing them! Fortunately we had 2 boys

My advice - if you can't find something you love and can agree on (and not everyone does, for some people names just aren't that big a deal or you don't "love" them until they become attached to a person), then go for something very classic that he can make his own.

Names like James, Alexander, William, Edward etc - some say they are boring/dull but they are completely timeless (never left the top 100) so won't date, are generally popular/well liked but outside the top 20 (so unlikely to ever get any comments or judgements on his name but he'd still stand a reasonable chance of being the only one in his class). Plus each of those has at least 4 common nicknames so if you/he decide later you doesn't like the full name, you/he can easily choose one of the nicknames instead.

Just an idea, if naming is stressing you out!

Omg my husband was EXACTLY the same, right down to the suggestion of Keith! (Sorry Keiths)

Can’t give the best advice as found out we are having a girl but my response was to find a name I absolutely LOVED and he had said no to but not a violent no (as some others had received) and tell him if he couldn’t engage in any practical discussions on names he actually DID like rather than just saying no to all my suggestions, we would be naming him that. My hope was he would either agree or start discussing properly if he disliked the name enough to not agree

Good luck to you!

Depending on how far along you are, ban the topic for a week or two.
And/or try an app that only shows you the ones you both like.

I could have wrote this post myself. My hubby is exactly the same!!!
Boys names are hard... and I don't like that many but have a few I love and he's just like No. But with no suggestions himself 😡 no real advice other than I've stopped talking to him about it for a few weeks. I'm 33 weeks now. And will bring it up again later.

Love @IamnotwhouthinkIam 's advice. And if there's a name you love that's not a classic, then choose two classics as back up. i.e. When baby is born, say "I'd like to call him NameILove". He might just say yes at that point. If he doesn't, tell him "Right, it's James or Alexander - pick one". And give the name you love as a middle name.

Also, take the pressure off yourself too. Imagine somebody handed you a baby and said "He's yours - his name is James" (or Alexander, or John). Would that be perfectly fine, after all? There's a lot to be said for the perfectly fine - it's not a creativity contest. The name will become associated with your little loved one.

Agree with @CherryRedDMs try not discussing names for a few days.

Agree with anyone suggestions, but I’d be getting really snarky here and you’re right to be annoyed. He’s making it entirely your responsibility. He can’t have power of veto if he’s not willing to bring anything to the table himself. Try the above with the apps, then if all else fails an ultimatum - if you don’t work with me on this, the very first thing we decide together for our baby, I’m choosing a name I love.

Are you even having a boy or is it hypothetical? Because it could be so much easier once you know the sex.

@bedheadedzombie

Are you even having a boy or is it hypothetical? Because it could be so much easier once you know the sex.

Yep, having a boy!

Just stop discussing it for a while. It should be a fun thing, and not something to get stressed/upset/fall out over.

Kinder is a bit of fun. Ye might find some matches

DH was just like this, I don’t think he actually saw the reality of naming a baby. I just told him my favourites, said which did he not mind or even like & then just left it.

He then brought it up about a week before my due date to say that he liked my favourite name & shall we call him that.

Funnily enough, since DS has been born, he’s come up with two other names for “future sons” 🤨

As long as he is aware of what you like (bearing in mind the only option DH came up with was Max-Danger), he’ll probably end up engaging at some point & if he doesn’t, just name him your favourite choice.

Just tell him that if he won't engage properly, then you will be naming the baby. Starting now!

Ahaha i feel the exact same except my husband has made exactly zero suggestions. Even Keith would be some sort of contribution. He just says no to everything I suggest.

My plan is now to ignore it until the baby comes and if he still doesn't have any ideas then I will be naming this baby.

I believe he is under the impression that the perfect name will just arrive in his head one day, having put no time or thought into it.