Picked out name for year...Have you ever changed your mind once the baby is born?

[Bells3032]

Due in a few weeks. And we have had baby's name picked out since well before we got pregnant (had one girl and one boy name). I am thinking of getting her a personalised little hat for hospital but I am worried that I am going to look at her and be like "noooo she doesn't suit that name"

Not personally but I've always had a shortlist of names and then chosen once they have arrived.

However my cousin got everything personalised and when her dd she just didn't look like a Grace, it took her about two weeks to tell everyone that she changed the name but looking back I cam not imagine her being called Grace now.

Buying a personalised hat is a bit silly. Wait till she's born, and take all the time you need until you register her. I don't think we finally decided on DS's name until we were actually on the way to register him.

My then husband did. Id loved a name for as long as long as I can remember and he agreed to it for DC. Once I'd given birth, he changed his mind and we had to think of something else. We got cards with the previous name on it as we had been so sure.

I had my daughter's name chosen very early on and 2 days before her birth I suddenly fell in love with another name I'd never considered and named her that! I'd never buy named items until the name is set.

Same to having shortlist of names and picking once they arrive. I think you need to see the baby to see which one will be the right fit.

I think it's bizarre how people name a baby before they are born. Have a list of names by all means but what if you've committed to one and it's all wrong?

I had a name all sorted - then the week before the birth I watched a programme about serial killers. Completely put me off the name!

Agree with others that a (short) shortlist is the way to go. I never really understand when posters say they have it down to two and seem to want a MN vote to decide!

In our case, we did give DD the name that was our frontrunner for my entire pregnancy, but we had two others we loved in case it didn't suit. We waited 24hrs to decide, however!

With ds we had a boy's name and a girl's name picked for several months as didn't know the sex before he was born. As I was lying on the operating table about to have an emergency cs after many hours in labour I turned to dh in a panic and said I'd decided I didn't like the girl's name we'd agreed on. I'd loved the name up until that point but I'd been convinced all along I was having a boy and suddenly faced with the reality that I may be about to deliver a girl I panicked. Luckily it didn't matter!

Not as such, but I always always wanted any daughter I had to be called Lydia, since I was a child. Then a family member used the name so we had to think of another or have two lydias in the family.

As soon as she was born though, we were like 'nope, that girl is no Lydia!' and the problem was solved. I look at her now (she's 2) and I can't imagine her being called Lydia.

Oh and sort of the opposite. I have a son and loved his name up until he was about 4, I still love it objectively, but it's a very certain sort of name and it doesn't really suit him. Not much I can do about it now obviously, but while some children grow into their names, he seems to have grown out of it.

I know a load of people who got personalised things and just knew that would be what their baby was called.

I know two that changed the name later - although one has personalised clothes in her early photos, I don’t think anyone minds. She still uses the photos.

I’m 99% sure that I know what our baby will be called, and I’d have bought a couple of personalised things if I’d had time - if we changed our minds, we’d have used them anyway 🤷‍♀️

We had chosen the name before conception and we used the name. So a personalised hat would have been fine for us. However, it's just a hat. The first hat they wear tends to get pretty gross with gunge anyway. If in doubt, just order one after birth

My friend did. She and her husband agreed on the name months in advance, and then after the birth they said nah doesn’t suit her and picked something else on spur of moment. I really liked the original name and dislike the new one 🤣🤦‍♀️

We only decided on a name about 2 weeks after he was born and it wasn't one from our shortlist. Meeting him made the difference.

I'm always astounded people are so certain of names before the baby's birth - you don't know what the baby looks like. I had a shortlist of 3 (I say 'I' because DP refused to discuss girls' names at all). When DD was born she simply did not look like the my favourite name. And it was a name I was prepared to do battle over as well. We called her a name neither of us had even thought of, as it suited her. It still does and she's in her 20s

I knew what my potential DS’s name would be since I was about 14.

Luckily DH liked it too once I actually had that boy 15 years later.

It’s a classic name though, so less potential for not “looking like” his name, since there’s so many of them about!

We had a name all picked out. Changed our minds when we saw her and came up with the perfect name 5 days later.