Esra for a girl

[Elspethelf]

We are not yet pregnant but daydreaming. My husband and I don’t often agree on a name, but miraculously both love Esra for a girl. Is this useable do you think?

It is a variation of the Middle Eastern name Asra. My husband is Middle Eastern. Other variations are Isra and Izra.

There is a girl in my son's reception class at school called Ezra (that spelling). I guess people just seeing it written down might assume she's a boy but no one who knows her bats an eyelid at her name.

Thanks for all the thoughts and opinions!!

It's definitely useable but the fact that Ezra is rocketing in popularity might mean that on paper she's mistaken for a boy a lot of the time.

Asra is just as nice, and doesn’t spell arse backwards.
Kids always always notice these things. Usually at about age 9.

“We are not yet pregnant”

How is your husband planning to get pregnant then?

I’ve seen it as Ezara for a girl, pronounced Ezra. It’s a pretty name.

Asra is much nicer

@warmduscher It’s a team effort, you see? Can’t really do it without him

I really like it

My aunt was Azra.

I would assume Esra is a boy, but if that doesn’t bother you then I wouldn’t have noticed the arse thing.

Asra is beautiful!

[quote Elspethelf]@warmduscher It’s a team effort, you see? Can’t really do it without him[/quote]
Please tell me you don’t believe that providing the sperm for your egg means he gets pregnant too?

I love Asra and Isra. Esra not so much. Ds (9) is currently going round calling everyone their names backwards - he finds his own highly amusing. 🙄

It sounds like Ezra. People will assume she is going to start writing hypnotic cantos.

Prefer Asra.

@warmduscher Yep! I absolutely believe in ‘we’ during pregnancy. When the baby arrives I also believe it’s ‘our’ child.

@venusClapTrap hahaha your DS sounds like fun

[quote Elspethelf]@warmduscher Yep! I absolutely believe in ‘we’ during pregnancy. When the baby arrives I also believe it’s ‘our’ child.[/quote]
Not quite the same as believing that your husband will be pregnant too, though.

Isra and Izra are much better I think. Esra is way too close to Ezra.

(Also I agree with pp, there is no ‘we’ in being pregnant. It minimises and dismisses what the woman is going through and will potentially go through.

You will be pregnant and your husband can be part of your team with him needing to be given ‘credit’ for something he’s patently not doing.)

@hollyivyandallthingsyule By ‘I agree with pp’, you mean person who decided to troll a name thread with an unwanted opinion about my choice of phrasing.

When you are talking about what women can go through during pregnancy I assume you are talking about women like me. I suffered infant loss at one day old earlier this year. You can’t speak for everyone. I’m my case, I couldn’t do a second of it alone and thinking of it as ‘we’ gets me from one second to the next.

I appreciate your thoughts on the names, let’s just leave this as a name thread.

I’ve got a Turkish friend named Esra, I think it’s lovely.

Thank you @mynameisnotkate I think perhaps the best thing about finding an uncommon name is you are less likely to come across someone you know with that name and it changes your view. I feel like everyone who has said they know an Esra has liked them so far :)

@Elspethelf that’s understandable. I’m sorry for your loss though of course I know nothing can make it better.

(FWIW I don’t think pp was trolling - words do matter, particularly right now, and women have to be very careful when words are used to potentially claim their experiences.

Of course there are situations where words also matter just as much in the other direction, and I completely understand that you do not want to face things alone. Sending you good wishes.)

[quote Elspethelf]@hollyivyandallthingsyule By ‘I agree with pp’, you mean person who decided to troll a name thread with an unwanted opinion about my choice of phrasing.

When you are talking about what women can go through during pregnancy I assume you are talking about women like me. I suffered infant loss at one day old earlier this year. You can’t speak for everyone. I’m my case, I couldn’t do a second of it alone and thinking of it as ‘we’ gets me from one second to the next.

I appreciate your thoughts on the names, let’s just leave this as a name thread.[/quote]
If you suspect someone on a thread of being a troll, you need to report them to @MNHQ.

If, on the other hand, you post that you think it’s possible for both the husband and wife in a couple to get pregnant, you need to accept that some people will think you’re talking nonsense.

@Warmduscher You and I both know you didn’t post to genuinely ask if I know what gender gets pregnant. As far as I can tell you posted, and are still posting, to be unkind to me. Mission accomplished. You can stop now.