Have you ever meet someone who regrets their kids name

[Olga03]

I'm curious because names and their associations are constantly changing. I know someone who regrets giving in instead of finding a name both parents love.

Me-I ended up with a name for my second child that I wasn’t keen on but my ex loved it and my mother seemed to think she had a final say on the name so I got pressured into it
It’s now associated with a man that is a ‘twat’,’wife beater’ and ‘chavvy’
I’ve gone from not really liking it to downright hating it
He’s not a twat,wife beater nor a chav but it’s still there in my head that I could have done better and named him something much nicer

Give him a nickname.
Just because it is associated with someone else doesn’t mean you should think like that. It is your son’s name and you love him.

I’ve heard a person make comments about how they were young when they named their child which lead me to believe they do regret it as it sounded defensive the way they said it, and to be honest I can understand why. Though I didn’t ask outright as it’d be rude.
I imagine a lot of people that do aren’t going to be so open as it won’t be nice for the child to hear.

When I was 11 or 12, a couple round the corner of our road changed their 3 year old daughter's name from Frances to Nicola. It seemed very late to change the name for the poor kid. Apparently they had been unsure when they had named her and just became increasingly convinced that she was more of a Nicola than a Frances as she aged.

My parents don't regret my brother's name, but he does.

@Scarby9 It's exactly the same for me. They knew how much I hated it but still insisted it was a lovely name.

I know someone who changed their DC’s name when they got to a year old. Her DM had pushed her towards choosing a name she wasn’t sure about and increasingly she regretted it.

@MysticCT Sympathies!
Would you say your name could objectively be viewed as 'lovely' and it is just that you don't like it, or would many people not think it was nice?
My brother's name is now universally a joke name in this country. It wasn't when he was born and named, but times have changed, sadly.

@Scarby9 It is an extremely old fashioned name and definitely not a pretty one. I have never met anybody who has said it is a nice name.
I suppose it isn't as bad as having joke name, your poor brother.

Yes, my best friend’s mum. Her kids have very of-the-moment 80s names (think Kayleigh) and she says she wishes she had given them more classic ones now.

@MysticCT
He always said he would change his name when he left home, but by that point he had brazened out his name so often that he has stuck with it. It has never stood in his way, but he doesn't like it!
Interestingly, my name is also now completely out of fashion, but I still love it and am convinced it will soon have a revival...

Yes I know a lady who has an Elsa-born about 6 months before Frozen came out- she wishes she'd used a different name.

I knew someone who gave their child a beautiful name only for it to develop very bad associations out of nowhere before their child was even a couple of years old. Almost as unlucky as it would have been to name your child “Corona” in 2018. We’re no longer in touch so I don’t know if they changed it but I definitely would have done.

All the parents of children named Delta probably regret it, yeah

@Honkytonkyhonky I'm really sorry to hear that. Is there a middle name you can use by any chance?
@Scarby9 I might be wrong, but isn't that the child will always have to state on official documents that her name used to be Frances before it got changed to Nicola? At least the case for the UK (if I'm right).

I knew a couple of girls at school who had babies young (very young, around 16) and regret their names. The names are Kadey (baby born around the same time as Mean Girls) and Crystal, which, although not my taste, I think are fine but maybe not as classic/timeless as they'd like.

I think another issue is that the names are the sort of names that people expect from a teen mum and so my friends feel that they're always sort of judged even when much older

@Olga03
Sadly not-he’s 24 now
He doesn’t know I hate his name-it’s part of who he is but I just live with it

I knew an Isis whose parents changed it to Issie.

An Elsa born just before Frozen.

And an Alexa pre-Alexa being a thing.

I know someone who regrets their child's name. They are a single parent so can't even blame their ex-partner, who had no input in to the name!

Tbh I didn't like it when it was chosen, but I got used to it and didn't comment on it.

I think they just think it's a bit faddy, and went off how it sounds. Not sure what they wish they'd chosen instead.

A few people who chose very popular names over the years (Eve, Emilia, Arthur) having believed they had picked names that were relatively unusual. Not deep regret, but annoyed with themselves they didn’t do a bit of research.

A friend recently let me know she’s changed her son’s name, he’s 6 months.

One friend changed her son’s name when he was at primary school when it became clear he was always called the long version not the diminutive.

Another friend of mine regrets her son’s name as it’s a version of her DH’s name and there’s endless confusion. (I did warn her).

There's an Alexa in DDs class. Born pre-amazon Alexa. The mum has told me she very much regrets the name now.

Many years ago I had a colleague who called her son Niger, after the country. A perfectly lovely name in itself, but as school age approached she got cold feet about what his classmates might do with it and he went on the school register as Nijah.