How do you feel when you see your child’s name mentioned?

[DontWantTheRivalry]

Just curious how you feel when you see your child’s name being discussed and the general consensus is a “hell no!”

The only time I ever really see my son’s names come up is when there is a “Is this a naughty boy’s name?” thread.

Incidentally, both my boys are very well behaved

I’ve also just seen my name being discussed as a potential for a girl and let’s say the feedback wasn’t the most flattering

The whole thing does make me smile

My daughters name comes up regularly and generally it’s very positive Ie it’s a classic and beautiful with a few saying it’s dull. Which is fine by me

My own name is seen as dated but many like it and see it as ready for a come back, so nothing hugely negative there either.

My husbands name is seen in less positive light, dated but not in a good way 😂

I commited the ultimate sin on here of giving my DS a top 3 name! We liked it, it suited him - didn't care how popular it was. We don't come across that many either.

My DDs name isn't as common, we hardly ever hear another girl with the same name (think it got described as boring, bland and 80s on here )

I've never understood the obsession with how popular names are - my name was unusual growing up and I hated that, always wanted to be a Claire or Sarah! All DD ever says is mummy why is there never anything in gift shops with my name on?!

@ladymary86

My two daughters names never seem to get strong reactions either way. My sons name is probably considered to be a "bad boy name" although he really is lovely and well behaved. I generally don't care what other people think. I love the names I've chosen for my kids and I couldn't imagine any of them to be called anything other than they are!

It’s so daft when people say ‘oooh no that’s a naughty boy’s name.’

If you’re planning on being a permissive parent to a naughty child or possibly having a child who might have additional needs and behavioural problems, it really won’t make a difference. No parent is relaxing on their phone at soft play while their child terrorises the place then remembers their child is named Louis Amadeus so they better go and remind them they don’t have a naughty boy name and so can’t be naughty.

It’s funny when people say “MN thinks all children should be called x, y, z” as if it’s some kind of cohesive hive mind.

My dc have two ends of the spectrum- DS has a boys name that I’ve seen described here as everything between “boring and wet” and a favourite classic.

Dd has one of those unpronounceable Irish names, which is either loved or hated.

I don’t get offended- why would I? Names are so personal, and when I saw that some people hate my dc’s names I could differentiate between people disliking their names and who they are as individuals.

@Kanaloa, so someone posting what they think is daft?

I'd say some names are a bad boy's name, mainly based on having met badly behaved children with that name.

Not every child with that name will be badly-behaved but the association will remain

[quote Sboncen]@Kanaloa, so someone posting what they think is daft?

I'd say some names are a bad boy's name, mainly based on having met badly behaved children with that name.

Not every child with that name will be badly-behaved but the association will remain[/quote]
Well yeah if they think a certain name is a ‘bad boy’s name’ and that’s a reason not to use it. It’s daft because a child isn’t naughty based on their name so it has no real bearing on deciding to use it. The child won’t be naughty or good depending on the name used.

@Kanaloa, no but similar people will have similar tastes, so their parenting styles may be similar

Naughty boy names IMO might be ones that either age badly or are from a different culture, or are celebrity/tv inspired

I don't think that a name will affect a child's behaviour but they can indicate the background.

[quote Sboncen]@Kanaloa, no but similar people will have similar tastes, so their parenting styles may be similar

Naughty boy names IMO might be ones that either age badly or are from a different culture, or are celebrity/tv inspired

I don't think that a name will affect a child's behaviour but they can indicate the background.[/quote]
That makes no sense unless you think everyone from 'a different culture' parents similarly enough to have their children turn out similarly badly-behaved, or that people liable to use TV as inspiration have particularly badly-behaved children. I'm not sure what 'ageing badly' would have to do with child behaviour.

@Birdsnesting, I meant different culture to the parents.

Something like an Italian name if you have no connection whatsoever with Italy, never been there and don't speak the language

[quote Sboncen]@Kanaloa, no but similar people will have similar tastes, so their parenting styles may be similar

Naughty boy names IMO might be ones that either age badly or are from a different culture, or are celebrity/tv inspired

I don't think that a name will affect a child's behaviour but they can indicate the background.[/quote]
Right but if those people who you judge as having low tastes and bad parenting styles will still have that style. It won’t make any difference what their child’s name is.

Indicating the background won’t make a difference if the implication you’re trying to make is that children who are from a certain background are badly behaved because those same children will be from the same background no matter what their name is.

Background could be what sort of homes they are from, not cultural or socio-economic.

The names I'm thinking of aren't particularly indicative of class.

Naughty children aren't naughty because of their class, culture, economic background, but they may well be because their parents parenting style leaves something to be desired

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So there is an entire group of people who have no class similarities but all choose similar names and parent badly?

Why pretend this isn’t about class? It so obviously is and that’s what annoys me about the naughty boy name threads.

Well I'm named Karen so I wouldn't worry too much...

It definitely isn't about class @Kanaloa.

I can think of ghastly children with names not linked to a particular class

The parents might be well-off or not but their little darlings don't get told off

DS2’s name is ‘wet’ apparently. Which is probably one of the last words on this planet I would use to describe him!

@Sboncen

Background could be what sort of homes they are from, not cultural or socio-economic.

The names I'm thinking of aren't particularly indicative of class.

Naughty children aren't naughty because of their class, culture, economic background, but they may well be because their parents parenting style leaves something to be desired

But are you saying there is a link between 'parenting styles' and a type of name you're loath to define and claim isn't class-linked, but is nonetheless recognisable as a 'naughty boy name'? Which may involve calling your child Luca when you aren't Italian?

@Sboncen

It definitely isn't about class *@Kanaloa*.

I can think of ghastly children with names not linked to a particular class

The parents might be well-off or not but their little darlings don't get told off

So what is it that all these names have in common? People who don’t parent just automatically love the name William? That sounds more like just a coincidence that you’ve met a few children who happen to be badly behaved.

Usually when I see it it is definitely class based with people looking down on names that are associated more with working class people, rather than more ‘classic’ or traditional names.

@Birdsnesting, the name I was thinking of was not Luca, or Italian.

I don't wish to say the name as it is the name of an acquaintance's DS, but FWIW it's of irish origin.

The acquaintance is a professional and married to someone in a vocation.

Their DS is a little horror and they beam at him, saying things like 'Oh, he's a little devil'. Their DD is 'feisty' and also has an irish-origin name.
The parents have no irish heritage.

Both the names are nice and maybe the children will grow out of it - I certainly hope so, but there is no sign of it yet

The name is often described as a naughty boy's name

on here

DD1s name was disparaged by Katie Hopkins saying she wouldnt amount to much ( 11 As at Gcse, excellent A level results, 2;1 at uni and a 30k job at the age of 22) so I dont listen to what other people think.

[quote Sboncen]@Birdsnesting, the name I was thinking of was not Luca, or Italian.

I don't wish to say the name as it is the name of an acquaintance's DS, but FWIW it's of irish origin.

The acquaintance is a professional and married to someone in a vocation.

Their DS is a little horror and they beam at him, saying things like 'Oh, he's a little devil'. Their DD is 'feisty' and also has an irish-origin name.
The parents have no irish heritage.

Both the names are nice and maybe the children will grow out of it - I certainly hope so, but there is no sign of it yet[/quote]
So you know one family with two naughty children who have similar style names since they’re siblings. And because the names are Irish you’ve asserted that ‘names from a different culture’ constitute naughty boy names.

The only conclusion I would have drawn from that is that your friends are very permissive parents so their children don’t really have boundaries. They would be the exact same poorly patented children no matter what their children were called.

@EnglishMcSwedeFace

My daughter's name seems to divide opinion; some say it's lovely others say it's hard, that any name starting with Ass is a recipe for disaster, it's too faddy, they hate it. I don't really mind, we don't live in England and here it's a perfectly normal name that nobody has judged (not to our faces anyway!). My son's name has never been suggested, though I haven't searched the English version of his name but it's pretty classic so I can't imagine it being too controversial.

My own name came up on the virtuous names thread, I think it's considered over-used on Mumsnet and I do find virtuous names are generally difficult to live up to so it doesn't bother me that people aren't very keen all the time.

We are naming twins! I also have a virtue name which I hate My DS is Magnus though, which according to MN is either completely awesome or hipster (possibly both!)

@Kanaloa, I didn't know you could have children patented