Would you be offended by name choice?

[amarchbaby]

Our baby girl is due in February (potentially a Valentine's baby!)

We want to call her Delilah

Our top middle name choice is Louise. My mother in laws name is Louise and it's also my middle name. We chose it based on the fact it's in the family but we also liked how it sounds (I know it seems heavy on the L's but I think it's fine)

However do you think my mother should be offended? Personally I don't since Delilah Louise does sound nicer than Delilah Aine, and we don't want to give her two middle names.

Thoughts? Should we consider other options or is it okay?

Delilah Louise is definitely too many Ls, especially since small children don't always find the L sound easy. I love the idea of going with Delilah Áine Louise.

Having said that I'm surprised to hear people would be offended. So long as you have a good relationship with both sides and they both have chance to build a good relationship with the child I think that's a bit daft.

Having said that, we used a family name on my side for our first child and one from DH side for our second child. I'd have been surprised if anyone was offended after the first child.

So your babys middle name is going to be your middle name? Fair enough but there are a lot of names out there, cant she have one of her own?

I want to say no but we have been disowned by my partners dad over the baby name. He was unhappy that we have a middle name for our baby that was my nans first name nd my partners nans middle name ( it is also the name of the school we met)
He was unhappy that we didn’t use his mums name.
I have been with my partner 20 years and his dad has never once talked about his mum, she died when he was young.
I don’t even know her name to have considered it..
Anyway after a few heated messages about how selfish we are he wished us a good life and blocked us.

Didn't you post this before? Am I dreaming? I feel like you have asked about this name twice now.

I wouldn’t be at all offended.

Delilah Aine Louise breaks up the Ls better imo.

I would not be offended and I'm surprised people feel so strongly about it.

I wouldn't be offended. Actually, I wasn't offended when my first grandchilds middle name was from my SIL family. Their second was middle names from my side which is lovely.

I think this is probably very dependent on you mother and how your MIL is likely to react - will she boast?

Since Aine is lrish for Ann could her second names be Louise Ann or Ann Louise. Seems a very easy way to keep everyone happy

I think I'm getting confused about how to pronounce Aine. In my head it rhymes a bit with the end of Delilah.
And @Kona84 that's awful. I'm so sorry that you've experienced that. People are insanely difficult sometimes - why would anyone think they have a right for their child to pick a particular name or not to pick a particular name?

I don't like Delilah. Louise is a bit of a fillee middle name.
Why not use Louisa as a first name instead?
Louisa Aine

2 happy grandmothers

@KirstenBlest

I don't like Delilah. Louise is a bit of a fillee middle name. Why not use Louisa as a first name instead? Louisa Aine

2 happy grandmothers

WTF?

1 how is it relevant that you don’t like Delilah?
2 do you honestly think the OP will change her choice based on that?
3 why should she then choose to use the two grandmothers names (although one isn’t actually their name) in order to apparently make them happy rather than choose the name she likes?
4 what if she actually did that and her mum was upset at “only” being the middle name?

Have a word with yourself.

Just give her two names. Why annoy your mum unnecessarily? I get the middle name connection but it's not the same, it's not as personal as actually having her own name especially when the MIL gets an actual 'credit'.

Also Aine is a lovely name and unusual compared to Louise. It would be wonderful for your daughter to have that heritage in her own identity. I have a great great aunt's middle name and I like the history of it.

@Jacaranda75

Delilah Aine Louise is fab .

I agree!

Sounds very classy!

How is aine pronounced?

I am liking the Delilah Aine Louise option too. Two middle names does not look OTT unless you have a really long or multi part surname

You could be like me and not pick a family name, my MIL has a very old fashioned name that has never come back around, and neither my mum or DGM particularly liked their names. So I went for 2 older traditional first names (2 DD) at which point MIL decided that they were perfect as they were the names of ...... fill in name of relative many generations before. As my mum is not competitive or ridiculous she didn't bother to trace our family tree, however I would be more surprised if I didn't have ancestors with these names than if I did.

@TurnUpTurnip

How is aine pronounced?

Aw-nya

I think your mum would be hurt I know my mum would be.

Delilah Aine Louise sounds good anyway.

Have a word with yourself.
You what?

We had similar when naming our DD. Our DS took my grandads name as a middle name so I wanted to do similar with DD using one of our mums names but I couldn’t pick one without the other being offended and they didn’t go together so we just picked something completely different.

I would vociferously beg my dc not to saddle a prospective grandchild with my first name. DS has just got engaged; his intended's (can't bring myself to use fiancee) mothers name would be preferable.

My mum didn’t like her first name (although I do) so she opted to choose a name she preferred instead (within reason - Octavia was vetoed). We settled on a version of her name that she likes.

I think the name Delilah Louise sounds amazing, I don't think your mum would mind she obviously likes the name if it's your middle too!