Rainbow baby

[Zeke2018]

Welp, we had the name settled, buuuuuut

Cassius will be our little rainbow baby. We lost our baby in April. Daddy brought Covid in the house from work, unknowingly obviously, and we both ended up getting it. I lost my baby, as the hospital said “from Covid”. So something told me after deciding the middle name that his middle should represent rainbow baby somehow. I looked up what people name their rainbow babies, and came up with different middle name options.

Which is best? Any other ideas?

Cassius Grant (as in ‘Grant’ed a new life) my fiancé likes this one

Cassius Nathaniel (gift from God)

Cassius Beau (pronounced bow, as in rain-bow)

Cassius Nathaniel is lovely :)

Milo means beloved.
Kiran means ray of light.
Luca means bringer of light.

Sorry for your loss but please don't

How would you like some of your name to represent your mother's loss of a previous pregnancy?

Don't saddle this baby with anything to do with it. It is your loss not his.

Nathaniel is best but I agree with @aliceinborderland 100%.

Also I feel that Grant and Beau really spoil the name Cassius, they're just not very nice or classy names. If you were the poster who decided on Cassius Enrico, that name is far better than any of these three. And will probably be nicer for the child to have his own name.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Such a difficult thing to go through.
I know this isn't the point of your post but it sounds like you've still got a lot to resolve, particularly with your husband 'bringing Covid into' your house.
I would think twice about naming your child after a lost baby (even if just a middle name).
I'd really recommend seeking therapy for your grief if you haven't already. It really helped me.

I agree with @Anycolourwilldo

Cassius Ray

Asher means hope / miracle - that would be the name I’d use personally. Cassius Asher :)

Cassius Enrico is gorgeous @Zeke2018
Some people use names like Ash, Clay, Earth to dedicate their baby to the earth. But you had a long time deciding that name.

So something told me after deciding the middle name that his middle should represent rainbow baby somehow.

They said this after you’d already decided on a full name? If you had already settled on a name that you like, don’t feel like you have to change it. There is no “should” about his name having to represent something.
But for what it’s worth, Nathaniel would be my favourite.

Nathaniel. Grant and Beau aren’t nice names. I also don’t think it’s fair to make your new baby bear the weight of a memorial name for your child who died.

I’m so sorry, I totally misread that! I read it as “someone told me”. Ignore me

I’m so sorry, I misread that! I read it as “someone told me” not something. Ignore me.

I’m so sorry, I misread that! I read it as “someone told me” not something. Ignore me.

Don't make this baby a tribute to the one you lost. It's not fair. Pick a name you love for itself.

Also, are you getting any sort of help to deal with your grief? You say 'daddy bought Covid into the house' rather than 'I caught Covid', which suggests a degree of blame.

Firstly, I'm so sorry for your loss. I also lost a baby earlier this year and my partner and I was utterly devastated.

What we found helped was naming our lost baby as she now has her own identity and we can refer to her as a name rather than as a tragic incident that happened.

I'm now currently pregnant again and touch wood everything seems to be going well so far. We're currently deciding on baby names but we won't be using any of the names to allude to our lost child as she has her own name if that makes sense?

I just feel all of my children should have their own identities. That said, it'd be lovely if you could have a bear made for your newborn to commemorate the baby you lost (maybe a bear in rainbow colours?) so that they have some physical connection to them right there in their cot? We're thinking of doing something similar.

Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy xx

I agree with naming the baby you lost, rather than giving this baby a name based on it's meaning in that way. They're all individuals.

That said, a large proportion of names could fit your wishes in this way, as all babies are a special gift/a ray of light; Bodhi, Theodore, Asher, Mateo, Elio, Asa, etc etc. You could likely just choose the name you like and find a way to explain the connection.

My friend did use the name of the baby she lost as a middle name later on, which I guess is no different to people using parents' and grandparents' names - not very controversial!

As much as i empathise with your struggle, I have to agree with this.

Your baby is not a replacement, not God fixing a mistake, they are their own person, separate from the story of the babies that came before.

Don't use this baby as a commemorative plate for his sibling. Don't saddle him with the psychological reminder of being "the one who lived".

@AliceinBorderland

Sorry for your loss but please don't

How would you like some of your name to represent your mother's loss of a previous pregnancy?

Don't saddle this baby with anything to do with it. It is your loss not his.

Oops, this is what i meant to say i agreed with

I'm afraid I don't like 'grant-Ed a new life' - this baby is not a reincarnation of your lost baby, he is his own person.

@Anycolourwilldo

I'm so sorry for your loss. Such a difficult thing to go through. I know this isn't the point of your post but it sounds like you've still got a lot to resolve, particularly with your husband 'bringing Covid into' your house. I would think twice about naming your child after a lost baby (even if just a middle name). I'd really recommend seeking therapy for your grief if you haven't already. It really helped me.

Absolutely, sounds like ‘daddy’ could do with some support too if that’s the narrative.

I am so sorry you didn't get to meet that little one but this baby is a new life, his own person. Please don't burden him with living a life for the baby that didn't make it. I lost my first and last babies, they can't be replaced and the one's in between are loved for being them not for being the baby that came afterwards.

@AliceinBorderland

Sorry for your loss but please don't

How would you like some of your name to represent your mother's loss of a previous pregnancy?

Don't saddle this baby with anything to do with it. It is your loss not his.

I agree with this I'm afraid.

I lost and had my rainbow baby and I was thinking of all these names that meant something special, when really I didn't even like them but wanted that connection.
We didn't go with any of them and I'm glad we didn't.

Name the baby you sadly lost.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby in April, my rainbow baby boy is due in January and we will be calling him Lucas which means bringer of light Luke and Luca have the same meaning. His middle name is Owen which means young warrior. Other names I think work well for a rainbow boy are Felix which means happy, Theodore which means gift and Ethan which means Enduring strength.