Anyone else’s partner really picky with names?!

[blueee21]

Baby is due next month! Aside from the usual nerves around becoming a mother - I’m also a bit worked up that we STILL haven’t gotten a name yet!

If it were my way, baby would be named or at least have a few options, DH is so picky and I’m not sure why?

We haven’t even got a top 5 to pick from when baby arrives, purely because DH just doesn’t seem to like any names!

He’s liked one so far and I wish I did just so our baby could be named but I don’t and can’t force myself just like he can’t force himself to like any names I’ve suggested.

Someone reassure me please that our baby will have a name? Lmao. Did you have a fussy DH/DF/DP and did they stop being so fussy over names once baby arrived?

YES We will never find a name at this rate….

Our conversations go something like this….

Florence - ‘nursing your pint’ apparently that’s what they call someone in the pub who’s not drinking fast enough!

Eliza - Oh Eliiiiza (said in the voice of Nigel Thornberry)

Ottilie - Ottilie Butterly

Isla - Isla Wight

Phoebe- feeble

Flora - spreads easily

Delilah - My, my, my….🙄

Tilly - dog’s name

Tabitha - cat’s name

Clara - cow’s name

Lola - stripper name

HEEEEELLLLPPP!!

Yep! We didn't decide until he was born!
It was easier knowing what he looked like

Yep. Mine is same as @RubyReynolds64

DH liked classic names but basically would only consider the two he liked. The name we ended up with he had previously vetoed but he swears not 😉

My DH became miraculously more amenable to letting me basically have my own way once he’d watched me give birth…

We've never struggled, as such, but DH is very odd about picking a name that anyone we've ever even vaguely known has used. I'll say, "how about Felix?" and he will say, "oh, one of my colleagues when I worked at X company had a son called Felix." "Right, and when was the last time you saw/spoke to him then?" "Ooh about 10 years ago now. But we can't use the same name, that's their name!" I've stopped telling him the names of babies my friends / colleagues have had recently to try to give us a few more options!

Unfortunately I was the picky one! I needed to feel a connection with the name. I liked loads but none gave me that feeling 😕 eventually we did whittle it down but it took a lot of time.

Sounds like I’m definitely not alone! Which is very reassuring

And yes! My DH makes weird associations too - stuff I would never think to associate with the name?

But then I spoke to my dad and he said a few and I don’t know if it’s just a bloke thing 😂

Hoping we do both love a name once baby is here

I’m probably the picky one, but being self aware doesn’t make my opinions change. Have you considered using a name app like Kinder. It works like Tinder for names, so you’ll know if you match and you could get a shortlist that way. It might break the pattern of DH shooting down every name you suggest.

if he likes one name you suggested that is all that's required; you suggested it so presumably you like it, he likes it too seems solved to me.

What are the men suggesting? If they are expecting you to provide a variety of names that they pick from then frankly, I'd chose a name and tell them that's that unless they come up with something better

My DH was very quick to say no to names I liked but never had any better ideas. In the end I insisted that we both made a list of 10 names we liked; swapped lists, and then were each allowed to veto no more than three. Everything left on the lists then HAD to be up for consideration.

We ended up with a shortlist of two names (both of which I liked, neither of which I loved, tbh), and agreed when DS was born we'd see which one suited him best. Problem was we didn't agree on this when he was born! DD ended up with the casting vote.

Both my DC's names were compromises on my part tbh, due to DH's fussiness.

@blueee21 have you tried the “Kinder” app? That’s what DH and I ended up doing 🤣 you both download it and ‘link’ together and it gives you name options along with your surname that you swipe yes or no to 👍🏻 It’s basically Tinder for names lol. Any that you both say yes to go into a list 👍🏻

My DH was a nightmare. He's a university lecturer. He 'only' had two stipulations: no Biblical names and no names that reminded him of anyone he'd taught. At the point when I was pregnant, he had taught upwards of 250 students a year for over ten years. My DS has therefore ended up with a fairly obscure Welsh name that he hates, because it was the only name, out of hundreds I suggested, that DH had never taught. (He only suggested one name - Athelstan )

@IcedCoffeeAlways thank you for mentioning kinder! DH and I have literally just downloaded it and i shouted in ohh i have a match😂its too funny as tinder is how we met! We are struggling to agree on boys names and we already have 2 on the list now! Haha

So fussy. I’m expecting our third baby and to be honest im astounded we managed to give our first 2 names as he just shoots down all of my suggestions without really giving any reason other than he just doesn’t like it and yet if I ask him to tell me any names he likes he either comes up with something purposely stupid or says he can’t think of any he likes. Infuriating

@PurBal this happened with our first 😁 I suggested it early on and he said he didn’t like it...then I suggested it again mo the later and he loved it..I didn’t say a word!!

We’re having a nightmare agreeing at the moment too. My husbands starting to get sick of talking about though and edging towards ‘you just pick one’!

Mine is so completely random. India or Sienna, absolute no. Persephone or Lorelei yes. All the women I know have a general taste for types of names, whereas my DP just seems to make completely random decisions.

Omg yes.

Baby no 1 he agreed my top choice of name immediately. And all middle names. No debate, no pushback.

Baby no 2 . . . Everything has been vetoed as "weird" or "reminds me of X who was awful" - we have two compromise type names but he "doesn't like them that much" but won't suggest any others!!! We might just have to rearrange ds 1's names and have ds2 with the same names in a different order. Because that wouldn't be weird would it.

The names I was suggesting were not in any way out there - Nicholas, Simon, Peter . . . We tried Kinder but zero matches!

[quote CTMcG]@IcedCoffeeAlways thank you for mentioning kinder! DH and I have literally just downloaded it and i shouted in ohh i have a match😂its too funny as tinder is how we met! We are struggling to agree on boys names and we already have 2 on the list now! Haha[/quote]
@CTMcG 🤣 you’re welcome! Maybe Kinder will be as luck for you as Tinder was 👏🏼🤣 I had a girls name that I loved and DH kept saying “absolutely not!” so I dropped it. Then our first match popped up on Kinder...it was that name 🙄🤣 questioned him on it and he says “ohh, that’s lovely! Looks really nice written down!” 🙄 I was buzzing that I’d got my choice of girls name...then we had a boy 😁😂

@CTMcG Just to add...not that I was unhappy with a boy 😂 just realised that sounded like I was disappointed 🙈 we didn’t find out until the birth because I had no preference at all 😂

Yes and no - we "agreed" on a girls name (Lyra) years and years ago but when I found out I was pregnant I still said I wanted to go through other names just in case there was one out there we liked better.

He didn't like many of the names I suggested but all the ones he liked were weird and wonderful names from sci fi films, computer games, etc etc.

I wonder if it was a ploy by him all along to make me stick with Lyra but I don't mind as I really do love it and felt like I was just going through the motions with the other names I came across.

@NoSquirrels

My DH became miraculously more amenable to letting me basically have my own way once he’d watched me give birth…

This ⤴️

My husband had lots of name opinions until he watched me lose six pints of blood in three minutes. After that he was just glad that I was alive. I could have called the baby Kermit, he would have said it was the best name he had ever heard.