Child's surname for unmarried couple

[KatieHill05]

Hi all

So my partner and I are unmarried and my
Partner isn't particularly keen on his surname so is keen for the child to have mine which I'm fine with, but, when we get married we ultimately all want to have the same family name wether that's double barrel or we change to dads. Has anyone been in the same situation and has officially changed the name through enrolled deed poll with a solicitor or been in the same situation?

Thank you

No personal experience but I know a
Couple who opted for the wife’s surname as their family name and the husband changed his. No reason why you couldn’t do this.

Your partner could take on your surname if he's not keen on his.

If he’s not keen on his, then surely you won’t all change to his at all?

Why would you change you and your child’s name to his if he doesn’t like his name? Use yours if u want the same name.

@Aquamarine1029

Your partner could take on your surname if he's not keen on his.

This would be the obvious solution, surely?

Why would you change both your surnames to his when you get married when he doesn't like his name???
He can change to yours and your child's so you all have the same name. Easy.

I know a couple where the mans surname was Christmas. When they married he took her name.

I’d do that

Why would you change to a name he doesn't even like?

Not about names but check you are 100% clued up on your rights (and lack of) in an unmarried relationship when you have a child...

You know you don't have to take your partner's name if you marry right?

If you both want to have the same name then it would be easier for him to change his.

a) it's traditional for a baby to have the mother's surname, so I'm with your DP on that.

b) if you decide to change your name later on (which you may or not do) then DC's name can be changed at the same time. It's way simpler to change a child's name that's it will be to do yours

c) which lead on to the possibility of what name after marriage. As DP doesn't like theirs, you could let him rid himself of it completely and change to yours.

If you get married at a later date you have to re-register the baby anyway, I believe. So name changes would be easy.

Though your partner changing his name seems easiest!

Give the baby your surname and don't change yours when you marry. DH can take on your name if it's important that you all have the same name.

You could always give your D's a third name (an extra middle name) of your DPS surname.

James David Johnson Palmer. James Palmer.

Obviously your boyfriend should take your name. How is this even a question!

Thanks for your replies. I fell asleep as soon as I'd posted!

As well as budgeting advice, I'm interested in how you know which ISA to invest in, should you overpay mortgage or put into pension?

It's just overwhelming for me and DH is even more useless!

We are not young either ...

@AmanitaRubescens

Thanks for your replies. I fell asleep as soon as I'd posted!

As well as budgeting advice, I'm interested in how you know which ISA to invest in, should you overpay mortgage or put into pension?

It's just overwhelming for me and DH is even more useless!

We are not young either ...

Are you the OP?

@KatieHill05

Hi all

So my partner and I are unmarried and my
Partner isn't particularly keen on his surname so is keen for the child to have mine which I'm fine with, but, when we get married we ultimately all want to have the same family name wether that's double barrel or we change to dads. Has anyone been in the same situation and has officially changed the name through enrolled deed poll with a solicitor or been in the same situation?

Thank you

Hi all thanks for your replies and some of you not so kind replies, why even bother posting a sarcastic comment Just don't comment at all, the reason we are considering his name to although he doesn't like it is for his parents, he's afraid to explain to them he wants to possibly change his name., yes it's not up-to them, I couldn't care less what my name is but leaving it upto him. Anyway thanks for the advice

@Greytminds

No personal experience but I know a Couple who opted for the wife’s surname as their family name and the husband changed his. No reason why you couldn’t do this.

This. The child should have his or her mother's surname

The best solution here would be that either all of you take your surname or between you and your partner you decide on a new surname for your family. I wouldn’t keep a name I didn’t like to appease people whose response I needed to be afraid of. It’s his name, not his parents’.

Don't plan on all using his surname given he doesn't like it!

My personal preference is for both parents to be represented in the surname (double barrelled or with one as a final middle name). You could drop the unfavourable one for everyday use.

@CtrlU - no I'm not the OP. I've posted on completely the wrong thread like a numpty!

When you get married why can't your partner take your name rather than change yours and the kids? If he dosent like it anyway he should be happy with this. I'm pregnant atm and if I wasn't married the baby would be getting my name 100%

@Rainbowqueeen that's a great name! I would have kept that!

I don't think it's fair for you and your child to take your partners name when he dosent like it himself. It's 2021 a man can take a woman's name and it not be a big deal!