BJ initials with MIDDLE name

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I know it's been done to death, but I'm wondering what your opinions are on initials spelling 'BJ' with first and middle name?
We're set on using 'Joyce' as middle name for our second daughter as it's a family name, but I really like a few first names starting with 'B'.
Is this a viable idea or should I just let it go?

Our surname starts with 'H', so first name/last name initials would be 'BH'. With middle name it would be 'BJH'.

I’d add another middle name before Joyce so it becomes BAJH (for example).

Yes agree with above add another, I know it’s silly but there is no way on earth I would give my child an initial with BJ even if it was a middle name, avoid at all costs. My kids names (each) start with S T and D and even someone noticed that 🤦‍♀️

Perhaps it might be easier to look at some names NOT starting with 'B' then!

Pick a non B first name! Don’t saddle a baby with the horror of bullying over their initials.

I don’t think it will be an issue. Nobody uses their middle name or initial at school, nobody would know their middle name unless they told them.

I don’t know half of my friends middle names.

Kids sometimes have to write their full names on (e.g.) Sats papers (well maybe it's not required, but the schools here seem to get them to do it!).

And later on, initials are used for email addresses and various other things. And passports on trips, checklists that have to be initialled, etc (yes sometimes just first/last, but can be more, esp if there are two people with same initials).

So just because adults may not know their friends middle names or initials, doesn't mean children at school won't. they seem to know names, middle names, and birthdays of most their class!

I’d add another middle name too tbh. Incidentally BH means bra in German but I don’t think you need to worry about that unless you plan to live in a German speaking country!

Like Boris do you mean?

These are my initials. My first name begins with a B and middle name is actually Joyce believe it or not!

I have never ever been bullied about it in my life, in fact I don't think anyone has ever commented on it at all. I'm literally struggling to think if it's ever even been mentioned by anyone. I've obviously been aware of it myself, but middle names never really get used and it's honestly never come up. Even if it did, I'd just laugh it off or something, it's not a big deal.

Some companies/universities go for a combination of name/middle name/surname as email addresses so Bridget Jane Brown could have BJBrown@ or BrownBJ@ as her email address.

Don’t do it. Really please don’t. I’m speaking as one who knows :(

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Like Boris do you mean?

Oh no! Really? I had no idea .

@Marcipex

Don’t do it. Really please don’t. I’m speaking as one who knows :(

I wasn't sure, that's why I'm asking! We're still looking at other names. Might be best to steer clear off it. Funnily enough my brother's initials are BS, which I always thought is short for bullsh*t !

@Marcipex

Don’t do it. Really please don’t. I’m speaking as one who knows :(

It's weird, nobody has ever mentioned my BJ initials but obviously it's been an issue for you, so maybe it would be a problem in some places?

Do people really choose baby names according to what email address they might have at university?!?!

If their future hypothetical classmates are such dedicated bullies that they would research exam papers, then there would be very little you could do to protect your child.

Just choose names you like.

I met someone with these initials who actually goes by BJ. She’s a nice, older Canadian lady. When people are introduced to her, they are invariably

My children had their initials embroidered in large letters onto the outside of all sports kit clothing. Three initials were expected.

They are at university now, so not that long ago. The school still has this system.

It’s really about whether you want to risk it, maybe some people have never had it mentioned but I personally wouldn’t take the risk, I know I wouldn’t want BJ initials so wouldn’t put it on a child

“My children had their initials embroidered in large letters onto the outside of all sports kit clothing. Three initials were expected.”

(Sorry for bumping this thread after 4 days!) I don’t have a middle name, what would the many kids with only two initials do in circs where three are expected?

Sorry, I wasn't clear!

Of course you could have had two initials.

Three initials were the norm. Some had four, mainly children with double-barrelled surnames.

It would have been quite acceptable to have two initials.

But I would say 80 or 90% of the children had three and the remainder had four.

You are overthinking this. The initials are BH. It’s fine.

My DS has B first name and J middle name - it has never caused any problems.

My DH has those initials and he was called Blow Job Surname at school, but it was in jest / said with affection (akin to calling someone a dickhead or prat in affection). He went to an all-boys catholic school and he’s certainly not traumatised by his nickname (he had other nicknames as well), but it helped he was an extremely good sportsman in a school which valued it, so he was naturally above being bullied.

I used to work with a guy named Beejay, I don't know how it was for him at school because that's not how I knew him, but honestly it was just his name and no one made an issue of it. I think its not a big deal.