Would this be weird?

[Palmatree]

DH and I have finally agreed on a name we both love - let's say it's 'Scarlett' - it's not, but is pretty similar in terms of popularity. Problem is, I have a cousin called 'Scarlett' - one of my 4 cousins. She's about 15 years younger than me and I haven't seen or spoken to her since she was around 11/12. I also don't see her parents. We're all facebook friends but that's about it. My mum is in touch with them more, but only sees them once a year, plus occasional phone calls. No animosity or anything, they've just lived abroad a lot, although they're now back in the UK (but not nearby). I don't feel like I have a particularly strong enough relationship with that part of my family to warrant not using a name we love. I ran it past my mum and she thinks it's fine, especially as Scarlett tends to use a nickname. What do you guys think? Would it put you off?

No wouldn't put me off

It wouldn't put me off either.

I think that's ok. She will have bern around long enough for her parents not to feel that you copied them. I think it is copying if it's very shortly afterwards but after 15 years, it's a compliment

Oh good It's just taken us so long to agree on a name, but the whole cousin thing is slightly annoying me...

My cousin used my name for her baby but her dd is 20 years younger than i am.

@StillCalmX

My cousin used my name for her baby but her dd is 20 years younger than i am.

Well that's a pretty similar age gap to the one I'm talking about - my cousin is now 21. How did you / your parents feel about it?

Definitely use it!

Yes thats fine, my Cousin used my name for her baby, we only see them at weddings and funerals. I just thought 'oh thats nice' and moved on.

It would put me off - I steered clear of any family names. However, I do think it’s ok to do it, especially as it’s a popular name.

Wouldnt put me off at all

My mum was flattered. She'd always liked that niece a lot and no way was her niece going to use my mum's name!

My brother and my eldest share first and middle names... I always loved the first name and wanted it for a boy, and middle name is pure coincidence as it is DHs first name. No one owns a name, if you want to call DD that name, just do it.

I have the same name as one of my cousins.

My dad's sister's daughter, eight years older than me - and 14500 miles away, to be fair

I don't think anyone ever considered it a problem. One of the reasons I got that first rather than my middle name was because middle name is the name of a friend's daughter and my parents had already named a child the same as their other daughter! That was considered far more important than someone I've met on one occasion in my entire life.

I would be pretty flattered that it didn’t put you off the name so I’m obviously not a complete pain in the bum!

My son has the same name as my brother - not named after him, I just like the name!

no

just use it

Use it.

I know lots of people who have named their children the names of their cousins. The names were quite popular ones.

I agree with @ILoveShula, I do not get the issue with even first cousins having the same name especially if they have different surnames.

Use a name you love if you do not you will regret it!

I have cousins who have the exact same first name and surname - never been an issue

My examples might be something like:

Kate and Tom are first cousins (the DFs are brothers)
Kate is married to Connor and they have a son called Tom

Sarah and Tom are first cousins (Sarah' DM is Tom's DF's sister)
Sarah and Tom each have a DS called Harry.
The two Harrys are second cousins and have different surnames.

It's fine. Use it. Like someone else said, it'll be seen as a compliment.