My surname or his?

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DH and I have talked for a long time about using my surname instead of his (we’ve only recently married) because he isn’t particularly close or connected with his family anymore and hasn’t been for almost fifteen years, while I’m very very close to me. Problem is, growing up, I always felt self conscious about the possible ‘pretentiousness’ of my surname, and was recently told that it was used as the surname of the ‘posh’ character in the movie ‘Monte Carlo’ which makes me even more unsure about saddling our future kids with it, particularly as our favourite names are seemingly traditional English ones which tend to sound a little ‘preppy’ if paired with my sort of surname.

My surname is Winthrop Scott.
DH’s surname is von Halle.

Am I totally crazy here? Who’s surname is less preppy please?!

Also - whichever we go with will be both mine and DH’s surname, plus our kids. We aren’t thinking about giving the kids my surname but he keeps his or vice versa.

You both have very impressive surnames!

I'm always in favour of the mother's surname as they generally get so little representation.

You could always switch things about and go for Scott alone, or Scott Halle or just Winthrop. You have lots of great options!

Scott Halle is cool. I think it would be good to have one surname from each side. Unless you would feel bad about dropping one of your two surnames!

They are both awesome names - if your name means more to you, then go for that. It's not pretentious, it's just got personality, and your kids can always shorten to Scott if they want.

I think we’re either going to take one or the other rather than mix and match but it is definitely something we’ve talked about here and there! I think we’d both just prefer one or the other but can’t really come up with a reason as to why…!

Also should add that I come from quite a traditional family so my natural instinct/thought is to take his but he isn’t particularly close with his family so has suggested taking mine a few times. To be 100% honest, based on that alone, I’m quite indifferent really. It’s just the fact that I feel my surname is a bit stuffy and I was quite looking forward to having a more ‘usual’ surname.
That said, many people attribute the ‘von’ from DHs surname to being ‘posh’ so maybe there is no win for us here haha.

Scott on its own?

I like Von Scott and would incorporate both names

I just mentioned this to DH and he laughed and said von means ‘from’, so von Scott would indicate we are from Scotland, which we are not!
(I assume my fathers side of the family have Scottish blood somewhere, which would explain the scott part of Winthrop scott, but we don’t have any immediate relation to the country)

I would definitely mix and match.
Winthrop-Halle sounds good.

I’d use your surname and choose a one or three syllable first name.

I'd also mix it up. Halle is really nice.

Actually I think Halle Scott might be better than Scott Halle.