Bilingual parents pronouncing name differently

[Leeloo1233]

What do you think of parents pronouncing a child's name differently depending on their culture? Slight pronounciation differences are just cute in my opinion but for example the name Iris is pronounced quite differenty in my language (Eeris).

Will this confuse the child and do I always stick to the pronounciation I use with her, even when I'm speaking english to my husband?

Just pick one. You can’t call her different things, that’ll be so confusing! A tiny child isn’t going to twig it’s different ways of saying the same name, it’ll sound to them you call them different things!

Of course it won't confuse them!

What about couples from north and south UK, or one Irish/Scottish parent.

I should add, I have grown up with parents of two cultures, and have siblings and nieces and nephews being raised bilingually.

It’ll be fine.

My dps pronounced my name differently as a child. You get used to it.
Same now with my dc.
They like the differences.

It's quite patronising to say that pronouciation differences are "cute".

But I think it's fine, although your child might want to know what their actual name is, i.e. what is the correct pronunciation of it.

It will be absolutely fine. My DD has a name which exists in several languages but is pronounced completely differently in English and Italian (DH is Italian). She responds to both! No problem at all.

But I think it's fine, although your child might want to know what their actual name is, i.e. what is the correct pronunciation of it.
You can't register the pronunciation of a name so really it is whatever he or she wants.

I think it's fine, I'm used to how my name is pronounced by French people (I'm not French but spent ages learning and worked with a lot of French people) and DD responds to a nickname that only I use

You can’t call her different things, that’ll be so confusing!
With respect, this is a common opinion in monolingual households. Bi/Multilingual families are used to mixing languages and pronunciations.

I think it's fine. My daughter's name is pronounced slightly differently in her father's language. I don't think it matters at all it's just a quirk of being in dual national
family.

Dh and I had this issue I am Danish he is British we agreed on names that got pronounced the same in Danish and English. It meant names like Christian and Frederick were completely out.

Ds however is called Conrad and there is a slight difference in the Danish and British pronunciation we decided it was not so bad. (Its in how you say the Rad part of his name sofer in Danish) nods likes it when I use the Danish version but I only do when I am speaking to him. If to others I use the British pronunciation.

We pronounce our dc's names differently according to language. It’s still their name. Some names are very different.

Ds likes it NO clue where the nods came from.

Of course it's fine I'm Scottish and DC's dad has a cockney accent and their grandparents a foreign one. We all pronounce their names differently. In fact when dd 1 was at nursery abroad the staff completely altered/added a sound in the middle of her name as the actual sound doesn't exist stand-alone in that language. There's nowhere been any confusion. Things sound different in different languages or accents and that's and ok lesson to learn

It's not a problem.
We are a bilingual family and pronounce our daughter's name differently. It's not as if she doesn't know what her name is as a result. She also does it. If she's introducing herself to someone in dp's language, she uses his pronunciation.

@Sometimesonly I was raised in a bilingual household. OP didn’t ask about names that have a slight difference in pronunciation, she asked about ones where the name sounds extremely different.

I think it's fine. My daughter's name is pronounced slightly differently in her father's language. I don't think it matters at all it's just a quirk of being in dual national
family.

This, you'll just have to accept it
If not her grandparents then other people she'll meet of that nationality. Surely she'll learn their language too? So it'll make sense

Not a problem here at all. DH and I have different nicknames for the DC too and speak to them in different languages. Neither is scarred at all!

The cutest thing ever was my 2 year old calling his older brother by a different name depending whether he was then going to speak to him in English or French.

Both boys introduce themselves with the right pronunciation depending the language used, as do I.

We decided it was more important to have the same spelling rather than the same pronunciation.

OP didn’t ask about names that have a slight difference in pronunciation, she asked about ones where the name sounds extremely different.
Which is why I specified that we had chosen a name which sounds completely different and didn't have any problems!

It’s really fine. We’re a bilingual family. I pronounce her (very short!) name one way, her dad another and, thinking about it, her Welsh keyworker another and her best mate (Northern) another. And half the time I use a nickname . She’s three and totally fine.

@Sometimesonly

OP didn’t ask about names that have a slight difference in pronunciation, she asked about ones where the name sounds extremely different. Which is why I specified that we had chosen a name which sounds completely different and didn't have any problems!

Yep. So does ours.

OP didn’t ask about names that have a slight difference in pronunciation, she asked about ones where the name sounds extremely different.

But then the example she gave was just a pronunciation difference. (Eye sound as ee which is common). Some names change massively from the English version in other languages and that's ok too.

Completely normal and fine.

It won't be an issue at all. My in-laws pronounce William as Weel-yam. Here's never even noticed.

*he's, not here's