Jasper as a middle name for a girl?

[NessaBrookes]

Hello All,

I'm 35 weeks along and
my hubby is adamant on Jasper as our little girls second middle name. We both like the meaning of 'supreme nurturer' and like that she'll be our little gemstone but I'm concerned that the knee-jerk reaction is 'oh that's a boys name isn't it?'

It's giving me incredible anxiety right now especially since my hubby refuses to budge or modify it because he's very sentimental about it. Am I being too sensitive? For context her full name will be

Corianne Marina Jasper Brookes

Well the name is beautiful. It reads like a double barrel surname.

Would Juniper be a compromise.

I have two middle names. One very unusual. I have liked having it.

Also your DH doesn't have to have the final say. This is something to agree on not have dictated.

As a middle name it's absolutely fine!

My first name is unisex. I rarely get negative comments.

I really like it

It is a boy's name, but hardly anyone will know her middle names unless you or she tell them, so it's not that big a deal. Why is your dh insisting on a name you dislike though?

It reads like a surname. A lot of women move their maiden names to a middle name when they marry so by the time she's an adult she might know a few with a similar set up.

Why is he so keen on Jasper? Is this your only / last child? Could you keep it for a future boy (if you have one)?

I think it is fine as a middle name, especially as it is a gemstone as well as being a name. I think because it comes after 2 feminine names, my first thought is Jasper the stone rather than connecting it to the boy's name Jasper.

My sons middle name is jasper. It is "normally" reserved as a boys name but who is to say what's "normal" is?
I don't see a problem with it, I think it's quite a nice name for a girl. Plus like PP said no one will really know your daughters middle name unless you tell them. And even if YOU did it's no ones business what YOU or YOUR husband names YOUR daughter. Their opinion don't really matter.

Middle names are perfect in times like this. Honestly the only person who has any thoughts on a middle name are the parents.

My initial thought was No, but when I saw the full name I changed my mind. I really like it.

I'd assume it was a family surname given as a middle name. I'd be a nit to find out it wasn't. But no biggie.

Husband's who refuse to budge or modify sound like a bad idea though.

It reads like a surname. A lot of women move their maiden names to a middle name when they marry so by the time she's an adult she might know a few with a similar set up.

I also agree with this.

I think it's fine.

I’ve got four middle names! Two of them look like boys’ names but they are actually family surnames.

My first two names are unmistakably girly, so I have no problem with it.

I think the potential name arrangement you have given is really nice!

@SummerHouse

Well the name is beautiful. It reads like a double barrel surname.

Would Juniper be a compromise.

I have two middle names. One very unusual. I have liked having it.

I've never thought of it that way it makes me feel a bit better about it.

Juniper is pretty but we both want a gemstone name.

He's very stubborn sometimes and it's very hard to convince him when he's decided something. He isn't really bothered that I'm not 100% happy about it because as far as he's concerned it's perfect and my mum and his twin brother agrees

@RiaOverTheRainbow

It is a boy's name, but hardly anyone will know her middle names unless you or she tell them, so it's not that big a deal. Why is your dh insisting on a name you dislike though?

He thinks the meaning of a name is more important than its immediate connotation/ sound etc so he doesn't care that it's technically a boys name but I don't like having to explain to my friends and colleagues every time when they ask about the middle names

He isn't really bothered that I'm not 100% happy about it because as far as he's concerned it's perfect

He's an arse is what I'm reading. Don't be bulldozed into it if you don't like it.

@Twizbe

It reads like a surname. A lot of women move their maiden names to a middle name when they marry so by the time she's an adult she might know a few with a similar set up.

Why is he so keen on Jasper? Is this your only / last child? Could you keep it for a future boy (if you have one)?

Due to our circumstances there is a chance that she will be our only biological child (he wants to adopt too) so maybe he's unconsciously adding masculine tones to her name? I'm not sure

@Serpenta

He isn't really bothered that I'm not 100% happy about it because as far as he's concerned it's perfect

He's an arse is what I'm reading. Don't be bulldozed into it if you don't like it.

Another reason he won't budge is he's not 100% on Marina so having Jasper is a compromise for keeping Marina... :(

Thank you everyone for your feedback.

I think on balance I'm happier about the name than I was before but I'm more worried about the underlying problem that maybe he's strong-armed me into it and isn't really considering my feelings but I suppose that's a topic for a different thread

Do not let your husband dictate your child's name- especially one you don't like. This is your main issue. Naming your child is a joint decision. You both have to like the names.

Don’t be bullied, OP. I’m guessing Brookes is his surname, too?

@CheshireCats

Do not let your husband dictate your child's name- especially one you don't like. This is your main issue. Naming your child is a joint decision. You both have to like the names.

This.

Even if that means choosing another name than Marina.

No one is required to have a middle name. You could just stick to first and last

Love it

Great gem name. Jade is sometimes used as a boy’s name and I feel that doesn’t sound as unisex as Jasper.
Now you’ve finally got a name why not stick with it as both you and DH have a name you really want, family members are ok too. Let sleeping dogs lie.
The combination of names is very feminine.