Baby name dilemma

[lockdownbabyx]

So.. there is a name that I have wanted for years and years for a baby girl. When my partner and I for together and we had a conversation about names, I mentioned this one that I loved. He actually loves it too but straight away said he couldn't have that name as his best friend has a step child with the same name. Anyway, it wasn't spoke of again until now, as I'm 17 weeks pregnant. My desire for this name has just intensified 😂.
I was speaking to my partners friends wife and she actually asked if I had any ideas for names yet. Laughing, I told her my dilemma but I said of course I wouldn't choose it now but I have always loved the name. She said she wouldn't mind if we still chose it, which was so nice of her. But now I'm wondering if she was just saying that to be nice? AIBU If I still had it? Would you in my position? Help please 😁

What is the name?
Is it something popular or something unusual?

I would 100% still use it if knowing another doesn’t put you off. No one owns a name and she said she doesn’t mind anyway!

What is the age gap? Presumably your DP's friend's SD is a few years older.

Use it.

Oh god definitely use it (if your DP likes it aside from the connection). It's a really lose link, no one will care.

I wouldn’t automatically assume sharing a name with his best mates stepdaughter is an issue, and if the mother says it isn’t then it really isn’t. It’s quite sweet actually, crack on I’d say.

Definitely not a problem. Use it! She has said she doesn't mind (and I don't think it would be a problem even if she did), and now you are over-thinking wondering if she really meant it. Take her at her word. I think you've turned this into a big worrying deal when it doesn't need to be. Just use it.

His best mate's stepdaughter? Whom you've clearly never even met?
Of course you can use it.

No one owns a name and the mother of the one person you know with the name isn't bothered and isn't your family or friend. Use the name!

Still use it!

My ex remarried a woman with the name me and my husband chose for dd4. I dont even think about it at all lol i loved the name and still do.

Thanks all! I feel much better about this now, I was probably over thinking it 😂. Spoke to my partner last night and we're both in agreement, we both want the name so we will have it. Yay!
The friends step daughter is 7 so I agree, it's not a big deal, plus they live 2 hours away so we don't see them often at all.

@GreyhoundG1rl yes I have met her. Lots of time in fact.

In my experience the older child is usually charmed to find a new baby with the same name as herself.

[quote lockdownbabyx]@GreyhoundG1rl yes I have met her. Lots of time in fact.[/quote]
Oh, ok. When you said your partner told you it sounded like it was something you hadn't already known.