Still not sure on name

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I have a wonderful 6 month old girl and her name still doesn't feel right to me. My husband and I only had two names that we both liked. We picked in haste after she arrived when we started getting pressure from family to choose. Announced the name and felt happy with our decision. However it's a name with two pronunciations and it just threw me when we had to correct people. I panicked and worried whether it would be a hassle for her growing up and if she'd hate having to correct people. After a few days of worrying, I changed her name to our second choice and we registered her, keeping her original name as her middle name.

After a month or so I started to really regret changing her name. I think about it way too much and wonder whether I made the wrong decision. Her current name is nice enough, no pronunciations issues, but certain things bug me (sounds similar to her older sister's name, I don't like the potential nickname which wouldn't use but others might). We ultimately prefer her middle name.

Could you tell us the names

Honestly can’t comment without knowing the name.

This sounds hard on you - so sorry you've been under pressure.

On the plus side - if the name you prefer is already her middle name, then you don't need to re-register her or anything. Just start calling her by her middle name and see if it feels right.

If you decide that she will be known by her middle name, people will get used to it quickly enough - especially if she had that name for a while as a newborn anyway.

What does your DH think?

DH is happy to change or to stick. He prefers the middle name but content to stick with the current name for ease.

My DH is happy to change or to stick, he prefers the middle name but doesn't mind sticking with her current name

If you both prefer the middle name and are not feeling peace with the current name, just start calling her by the middle name. People will soon forget. I know a lot of people who go by their middle name without issues.

My DH is happy to change or to stick, he prefers the middle name but doesn't mind sticking with her current name

I guess I've been delaying making a decision because I feel that although we love the name, she might not like it given that she'll need to correct the pronunciation occasionally.

My first name is often mispronounced, but once you've corrected someone, they tend to remember. It's not a biggie. Also they've got a 50:50 chance of getting it right! However, my sister goes by her second name, which is easier day-to-day but more hassle when it comes to official paperwork etc.

My first name is often mispronounced, but once you've corrected someone, they tend to remember. It's not a biggie. Also they've got a 50:50 changeHowever, my sister goes by her second name, which is easier day-to-day but more hassle when it comes to official paperwork etc.

My first name is often mispronounced, but once you've corrected someone, they tend to remember (unless they want to annoy you). My sister goes by her second name, which is easier day-to-day but more hassle when it comes to official paperwork etc.

If she really dislikes it, she can always change to using her first name! No big deal. They will both be her names.

I think you are overthinking how much this would inconvenience someone. I have a name that has several standard spellings, so people often get it wrong, but that doesn't affect how I feel about my name at all.

If she really dislikes it, she can always change to using her first name! No big deal. They will both be her names.

I think you are overthinking how much this would inconvenience someone. I have a name that has several standard spellings, so people often get it wrong, but that doesn't affect how I feel about my name at all.

If we revert back to her middle name we would swap the names around on her birth certificate (can be done within the first year) so she wouldn't have that hassle.

You're definitely right about the overthinking. That's been the issue from the start. I guess I've also read quite a few threads about how much of a pain it is having a name that has different pronunciations that it made me question our original choice.

I'm not sure I'd say you're overthinking- I have a name with multiple pronunciations and I do find it a pain, but that's not necessarily a reason not go with the name you think is right for her, especially if there are only 2 pronunciations so people may get it right about 50% of the time (my name has 3 pronunciations and mine is probably the least common where I am, so it's rare anyone gets it right first time). If you do change it, make sure you correct people as soon as they say it the other way if they're someone that you're going to see again- I used to worry about seeming rude correcting people but not doing so just makes everything more awkward!

Is it Evelyn? I love that make

Name. Not make