Middle name

[Newmum20211]

I'm only 28 weeks pregnant but me and my boyfriend are thinking about names. Before we found out we were having a boy my boyfriend wanted baby to have his dads name as a middle name if we were having a boy, I agreed. He told his nan the other day but she told him that it won't be a good idea as his dad passed away when he was a child and he misses him a lot so every time he looks at our baby he will think of him and it'll upset him. He asked me what I think but I'm not sure, can I have some opinions please or wwyd

It's your child, which means his nan doesn't get a say in naming him.

I think it's a really lovely idea to honour your partner's dad by using his name as a middle name - as long as you like the name, of course.

My partners dad also passed away when he was young and we gave DS his name as middle name. I say do it - it's a nice tribute and it will be nice for your DS to learn about his grandad.

Lots of people use middle names to their honour relatives and friends, whether those loved ones are living or deceased. It's a nice tribute imo and it's not as if you are using it as a first name so people won't be hearing "Dad's" name all the time (as middle names aren't used everyday.)

That’s nuts, it’s a nice way for your DP to remember his father. Also none of her business.

I think it's a lovely way to honour someone that meant alot to you. My DS has my grandad's name as his middle name. From my experience the whole family love the reminder. Like they might not be here but they are still important.
If it feels like it might be too painful could you use your DH's dad's middle name instead?

All of my children have been named after loved family members for their middle names. It makes me feel my loved one is closer and living on in my children. Its a lovely tie.

A friend of mine who is Chinese told me when we named dd1 after my late grandma and MIL that there is a Chinese belief that if you name your child after someone they get a piece of their soul with them. To me that made it even more special to think of that a piece of people dh and I loved lives on

I think that's such a weird take! People honour family in their names all the time?? My daughter has my mothers name as her middle name, when she eventually passes I'm not going to look at my daughter and think of her just because of her middle name hat rarely gets used! Honour his dad, its lovely imo. Honestly I think grandmas take on it is quite strange.

My ds has his grandad's name as a middle name. Dh's father died when dh was a teenager and he wanted to name a son after his father but we compromised on middle name as I felt that our child deserved his own name like his sister.
Dh's family were very happy when they heard ds's full name

My son has his dads dads name as a middle name. He also died when my husband was young. Never been an issue or caused any upset.

When I had ds his df's nan told us we had to call him John after his late dgf!!

We used Jonathan as a middle name as a nice gesture..
Could you do similar?

Well, what does your boyfriend think? Would it upset him? Only he can answer that, but it seems odd.