Using ds1s middle name for ds2s first name

[Exhausted4ever]

Would it be really weird?

Kind of. What’s the name? Could you find a closely related one?

My cousin has done this, only close family remember DS1 middle name so it's not been an issue

I personally wouldn’t. In fact we changed our minds about DD’s middle name after thinking we might like to use the original one for a future daughter if we ever had one. We went for a middle name that was similar and that had been one of our top choices

The royal family did this!

I think it's ok if you really, really love the name and nothing else compares. Middle names aren't widely used.

I wouldn't do it however if DS1 was older and objected.

It's fine imo. Most people rarely use their middle names and I think it's better to "re-use" a name you love, than chose one that you like less or feel like you've had to compromise.

I am going to do this if my second is also a girl. Like pp have said, no one really knows anyone’s middle name so I don’t feel it would be any issue!

Surely dc 2 can have their own name?
Dd's df is John Thomas. His dbro Is Thomas... Bit of a lack of imagination imo!!

My SIL did this with her two daughters,as she said there wasn't another name she liked as much.The girls loved sharing a name when they were little.

My extended family did this. Births were in the 50s and 60s though and most names were 'royal'. I think it was quite common then? Hint - there are fucking heap of 'Elizabeths'.

No, I’d just assume it’s a family name if I ever had cause to find out.

All the women in my family have one specific name as first, second or third name. It’s a nice tradition.

I know twins where they've done this. It's sweet but I don't think I'd do it as I want to make clear they have a seperate identity.

Sorry the twins have the same first and middle name but the other way round to each other. So not the same.

I'd probably assume it was a family name.

Weve done it with a family name - its my eldest twos second middle name (half my family also has this name somewhere in theirs!) and we have used it as a first name for our third.

I do tend to call ds by his first and middle name, not like it's a hypanated name, just when he's being cheeky or messing on. That's the biggest issue I think. I might have to sack it off due up this unfortunately. I mean I know there are literally thousands of names but it's so hard finding one we both like!

I was going to do this. I remember my mum thinking it was very odd. Can't see why. Second child was opposite sex so it didn't happen anyway.

It is a bit weird op. Surely you now associate that name with your firstborn? You wouldn't use his first name again even though you obviously liked it, because it's taken. Why not something unique that is just for your new baby?

I wish I’d done this. With ds1 we gave him our 2 favourite boys names without considering the fact that there were no other boys names that we both liked at all. As a result ds2 was named after the doctor who delivered him because Dh and I were squabbling about it all through the c section. When ds2 was given his hospital ankle bracelet they written the name of the doctor in the baby name bit and written BabyDiadem in the doctor bit. I found it ridiculously funny (drugs and exhaustion) and we just named him that. It’s an ok name but ds1’s middle name is better.

MIL did that for DH and his brother. I think it's a bit weird. But ultimately it's up to you.

@TheLostDiadem great story - I’d be pleased to learn this if it were my name! Hope DS2 likes it!

@Exhausted4ever William and Kate did it. Prince George has Louis as a middle name. I thought it was a bit unoriginal but gave it no more than a passing thought. Maybe people will just think you’re posh. Maybe you are!

Weird. They need their own names.

I think it’s ok but I was thinking about this too. Hard to know how many children you’ll have and of which gender so do you use your two favourite names on one child or reserve the second favourite name in case you have another of that gender?!

@Snowymcsnowsony

Surely dc 2 can have their own name? Dd's df is John Thomas. His dbro Is Thomas... Bit of a lack of imagination imo!!

......his name isn't really John Thomas is it?

@Snowymcsnowsony

Surely dc 2 can have their own name? Dd's df is John Thomas. His dbro Is Thomas... Bit of a lack of imagination imo!!

I think it's quite weird.

I mean, I do tend to agree that there is no need to 'angst' about if a middle name and first name "go with each other" as people don't generally go around introducing them self with both names, but, like you say, a middle name is jolly useful when you are telling them off so it does get used within the family home, and I think a 2nd child would feel a bit "they couldn't even be bothered to think of a new name for me". I wouldn't do it.

the twins have the same first and middle name but the other way round to each other

Now that ^ is just bizarre. Poor kids.

When i was pregnant with my second I was cursing myself for wasting such a lovely middle name on my first 😂😂

When second arrived that name would never have suited her so I'm glad I used for my first as it really complements their first name.

You'll find another name you love. Good luck!