Would this be weird?

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Due DS no 2. DS1 has my GF name as his middle name and we always said we’d use DH GF name if we had a second son, for middle name. So that’s always been set.

Think we’ve decided first name but it is the opposite of DH cousins name. So our baby would be

Name A - Name B
and cousin is
Name B (after same GF) - Name A

Didn’t even realise 🤦🏻‍♀️ But we’re pretty much agreed, would this be too weird?!

DH & cousin are close, grew up together etc if it makes any difference.

WWYD?

I can’t see a problem.

So it’s DH’s adult cousin? And he’s close to him?

I don’t think it’s too weird. Adult cousin will presumably be flattered!

Both honouring GF, but the

So for example DH's cousin is David Elliot. And you want to use Elliot David? I think that's totally fine, it's very rare anyone uses their middle names day to day, so your baby would be known just as Elliot and it's unlikely to be connected as being DH cousin middle name.

No, it wouldn't be weird at all. Middle names aren't used day to day, so why on Earth would it matter?

If DH cousin is an adult then it should be fine I'd think.

I can't see this causing day to day problems, go for it if you like the name

Thank you! I know I would care if my cousin chose my names in reverse for her child but it just suddenly hit me.

@NoSquirrels yes. They’re very much in to ‘ribbing’ so sure they’d have a laugh about it.

@SpacePug exactly that. Elliot being one of the names !

@ErrolTheDragon only thought of it because you read so much ‘they stole my name’, ‘they named child with same number of syllables ’ etc. It’s a close family so it will be noticed.

Wouldn’t care !

you read so much ‘they stole my name’, ‘they named child with same number of syllables ’ etc. It’s a close family so it will be noticed.

I always think they're being a bit weird. But then, in my family each of the sets of cousins included a John as the first name. And DH has been doing his family tree and there's loads of repeats of the same names, even the exact same combinations. Which is a pain for genealogy but not unusual in real life.

You're overthinking it. It's fine

If the family is one for “ribbing” which to me as reads as rude and childish immature comments then I wouldn't want the lifelong hassle of stupid remarks but each to their own. You know the cousin, we don't.

I don’t think after the initial comments it would be mentioned again. Possibly, but only in good jest.

I’ve suggested we tell him before we announce. Just in case he does have a tantrum about it 😂

It’s fine. Lots of similar name combos in my family. It’s nice in fact.

Sounds fine to me! If you don't mind the 'ribbing" that is!

I'm picturing one of 'those' guys. One in every family. Big into banter at other people's expense who would say it's cos you want to be just like him.
Honestly, that would annoy me enough to consider changing it, but I'm petty as hell!

Objectively, it's totally fine.

It sounds fine. I actually just realised that when my cousins named their child I didn't get told the middle names. I don't even know my cousins' middle names. Maybe that's unusual but maybe they don't even need to be told but if they are it's really not a big deal.