Mixed reviews

[May2021Mummy]

So I had very mixed reviews about Dexter and Stanley

So how do you feel about Toby?

I'm really struggling to find any others my OH will even consider

Naming a baby is so hard 😢

Toby is nice.

I Love Toby and Tobias.

Naming a new person is indeed tricky, but your OH should also be helping to give suggestions rather than just dismissing all the names you suggest.

I'm not a fan of Dexter, nor Stanley (sorry) but really like Toby (and Tobias, if that might be an option for you?)

Toby is nice.
The thing is, not everyone is going to like the same names. The important thing is you and DH like it.
On MN people can give an honest (brutal) opinion... in real life, once you’ve named the baby no-one’s going to tell you how much they hate the name you’ve picked. And once that’s the baby’s name it will grow on people anyway.

Toby is nice, fairly safe, not likely to be considered downmarket etc.

Dexter - is it a bit of a naughty boy's name? Not keen on Dex.

Stanley - ok but slightly unaspirational.

Bear in mind that it needs to go with the surname, and that you are naming a person not a baby. Will you still like the first name in x years' time?

I like Toby but I also like Stanley and Dexter

Dexter, would be my choice.

I like Toby, and prefer it of the three.

I love Toby.
I don't dislike Stanley but it just merges into the myriad of Arthur, Alfie, Ronnie type old-man names that are so common right now.
I dislike Dexter personally. It feels quite down-market along with many of the other surname type names.

Toby is my favourite of the three. It's very nice.

I really dislike Toby.
Dexter is the best of the three imo.

As someone who posts a lot on these threads... It doesn't matter what we think. Personally, I don't like Toby. Why? No reason at all, it just doesn't do it for me. I could amuse myself trying to write a witty sentence about what I don't like about it, but that's just me playing at being an art critic. A little boy called Toby, Dexter or Stanley will have no issues with his name throughout his life - they are all normal, well-used names.

Personally I prefer Toby to Stanley and Dexter but I agree with the poster above, my opinion is irrelevant.
You have to say this name over and over again and it will be the label that is on your little squidgy baby. Choose the one you love the most and don't let posters put you off.
They are all completely normal acceptable names for a child today that won't cause him any problems. I know how you feel as I stressed and stressed about it and I think I listened to others opinions too much.

You'll always get mixed reviews so go with your heart and what you want.

But I like Toby!

Thanks everyone you've been really helpful

You're all right of course I think I need to just focus on which one we really like and not be swayed, not everyone is going to like the same names

Might just take a break from thinking about it for a while we still have time and I feel like I'll just end up settling if I rush it

Toby is quite a boring name. Dexter and Stanley have much more about them

I like both Toby and Dexter.

Go with what you want. If you like it use it. You'll never get everyone agreeing with you.

I like Toby and also really Theo

You don't even need to decide before he arrives op. Some people don't decide until they have to register the name, which I think it at 5 weeks.

We named DS just after he was born. The staff who delivered him helped us choose and it was really special. I nearly named him after the anaesthetist . But the surgeon (CS) convinced me to use a name from my home country as she was from the same one! It was lovely.

@HenriettaHeffalump thank you I think we are going to wait until we meet him. He may look like none of them and we might think of something out of the blue that just seems right

I think I need to chill and stop trying to organise too much 😂😂

Do you know what op? Chilling and not being able to plan for stuff is the hardest thing I have found to adjust to since becoming a parent! So if this is your first, I totally get why you want to be organised. With dc1, we had full names picked for either sex ages before she was born. Decided not to find out what we were having, but it did drive me absolutely crazy not knowing! Then she was born and I realised I couldn't plan a thing anymore . I'm downright laid back these days!

@HenriettaHeffalump Im really going to try to be more laidback, Although my OH is so laid back nothing would get done if I was the same 😂😂 we've still got plenty of time (she says optimistically)

Dexter and Stanley are better than Toby. Toby is so babyish. And it reminds me of that bellend Toby Young.

[quote May2021Mummy]@HenriettaHeffalump Im really going to try to be more laidback, Although my OH is so laid back nothing would get done if I was the same 😂😂 we've still got plenty of time (she says optimistically) [/quote]
I know what you mean! Ah things might change as time goes on.

Congratulations and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and picking the name

I don't see Toby as babyish because it makes me think of Sir Toby Belch, Toby Stephens, and the Tobys I know who are adults.